Sometimes Alison at Ask A Manager and I like to answer questions about workplace awkwardness together.
Hi Captain, Six months ago my husband got a new job. It was a top management position that I thought he really wanted. The application process was very involved and I gave him a lot of help with it. I thought I was being loving and supportive, and that we were working as a … Continue reading #1290: “My husband says ‘my pushiness’ ruined his life.”
Here is the second post in this week’s collaboration between Jennifer P. from CaptainAwkward.com and Alison Green from Ask A Manager. Previously On: "Is it disloyal to leave a company who cut my pay and postponed my promotion?" (Nope! Cutting everyone's pay is like the part in the horror movie where the house says "get … Continue reading Ask A Manager & Captain Awkward Answer Questions: Part 2 of 2
Patrons of the blog have sent in short questions. Surprising nobody, I have written answers between "medium" and "epic." This is Part 1 of 2, the rest will come later in the week. In this batch: A friend is ghosting me to my face at work, I want to reconnect with a friend I accidentally … Continue reading September 2019 Short Questions: Part 1
Dear Captain Awkward, I am a psychotherapist, and a friendly colleague who is also a psychotherapist said she would like me to take a room in a three-room office she was acquiring. This plan didn't work out because the sale fell through. She then bought a two-room office and the idea, always an idea in … Continue reading #1202: “My friend proposed moving into a shared office, I said yes and made all the necessary arrangements, but now she’s suddenly changed her mind. Am I a bad sport if I need some space from spending time with her?”
Continued from the previous post to give me more time to think and help you rest your scrolling fingers. Click below the jump for: Not automatically taking on new volunteer responsibilities when others pile them on, talking to kids about fatphobia and disordered eating, supporting a friend with an alcohol addiction, and bouncing back when … Continue reading May Answers of Varying Length to Short Questions: Part 2 of 2
I'm putting this one behind a cut. A Letter Writer is dealing with some major work burnout and anxiety, and mentions disordered eating (bulimia) and childhood abuse including sexual abuse in passing (no details, just, mentioned). This is a tricky one. Dear Captain Awkward - So – the most important person in my life is … Continue reading #1198: “How do I deal with work burnout and make my partner* happy?” (*My partner = my boss, who is *a* partner in the law firm where I work)
Hey Cap, My mother in law has been out of work for some time and really needs a job, she’s applied to a lot of places and not gotten any calls. She has very specific work experience, work in this field has dried up significantly and is sporadic at best, she still has a mortgage … Continue reading #1179: “My mother-in-law is about to become my coworker.”
This letter came in last week, and a lovely blog reader who will now be known as "The Girl Sparky" helpfully volunteered to tackle the "sudden unemployment" part of the question. Her answer is below the letter/the fold. Here is my (Jennifer, Captain Awkward's) one additional suggestion to her beautiful post, dear Fed Up Fed: … Continue reading Guest Post: #1170: Battling Furlough Depression (Advice for keeping it together when you unwillingly have too much free time on your hands)
Dear Captain Awkward, I was just fired after less than a year at a toxic job. I was vomiting from anxiety on a semi-regular basis... it was awful. My team and peers were amazing, but my relationship with my manager was terrible. After months trying to fix it, I began seeing a new psychiatrist and … Continue reading #879: “I want to hang out with my cool former coworkers but NOT my toxic manager:” On bouncing back after leaving a terrible job.