Behind a cut for parental bigotry & abuse. Hi Captain, I’m wondering if you have any scripts for explaining why your family won’t be at your wedding. I am no contact with my parents. My mom’s combination of untreated, unacknowledged mental illness and homophobia created a very toxic, very abusive childhood. My dad enabled/noped out … Continue reading #1114: “Talking about child abuse during wedding planning.”
Dear Captain Awkward, Thank you so much for taking the time to read my question! Here's the situation: I got married nearly two years ago. For our wedding, we tried to keep things very simple and planned for two toasts, one from each side. I asked my best friend to give the toast on my … Continue reading #1112: “I’m still upset about my brother’s wedding toast.”
Behind a cut for Nazis and the extremely triggering Nazi stuff they say and do. Hi, Captain! I'm a girl in her mid-twenties. Recently I've been pre-dating a guy (hanging out with him and his friends, flirting a little) but nothing official. I'm South Asian and very visibly POC. One of his friends approached me … Continue reading #1083 and #1084: Nazis Are Beyond Awkward, Do Not Engage.
Hi Captain, I'm dealing with something that is new to me and I'm kind of seeking someone who can tell me whether or not my expectations are way out of line, or if I need to compromise them; my concern is that it's a problem where any compromise I can think of leaves everyone miserable. … Continue reading #1073: “Promises and symbols and weddings, oh my!”
Dear Captain Awkward, My wedding is in a month. There is new parental drama that makes me wish we were eloping. How do I still enjoy my wedding? Fiancée and I are introverts and did not want a huge wedding. My parents do not understand why we would not want 300 guests (despite numerous attempts … Continue reading #1003: “Getting married in 30 days and the parent drama is making me wish we’d eloped.”
Dear Captain Awkward, I got married 2 years ago, and since then Older Sister & I haven’t spoken. What prompted the silence was that she wasn’t a Maid of Honor at my wedding. Let me preface this by saying I come from a Southern family where weddings are a big deal, but if it had … Continue reading #900: “It’s been two years. My sister is still mad that I did not choose her as my Maid of Honor at my wedding.”
Dear Capt. and Company, This is a post-party wedding question, at least on the surface. The outline: asked friend M to be a bridesmaid in late 2013, wedding was this June. Friend M withdrew as bridesmaid January 2015, as funds were tight and she is 16 hours away. I offered to cover her dress and … Continue reading #751: The post-wedding blues
Captain Awkward et al, A few years ago now, my parents informed me that they have been swingers since I was 11 years old (over 15 years ago). I feel I should mention: while I am only able to sustain one romantic/sexual relationship at a time, I embrace any lifestyle that involves informed, consenting adults. … Continue reading #569: My parents want to bring a date to my wedding.
Hello Captain and Friends, I come from the type of broken home that looks shiny on the outside. The one bright spot in growing up with my neglectful (but not abusive towards me) parents was/is my big brother. We've always been very close and have essentially been each other's best friends since some rather cruel … Continue reading #445: My brother is marrying a stranger!
This is a follow-up to this post: https://captainawkward.com/2012/02/15/191-annual-reminder-time-get-your-teeth-cleaned-get-your-eyesnaughty-bits-checked-and-stop-hanging-out-with-crappy-people/ Dear Captain Awkward: First of all, I want to thank you and your commenters SO MUCH for being such kick-ass human beings and providing so much support and insight into the situation when I was so blind to what was going on. If I could, I'd invite … Continue reading #258 = #191 + Bridesmaidery