Dear Captain, A year ago I (she, 26) made a male friend (25) over OkCupid. We were both just looking for new people to hang out with, I was lonely after moving to a new city, and also happy to make a male friend because all my other friends are female. We started hanging out pretty regularly, just … Continue reading #1157: The Purple Dildo of Broken Friendship
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#1042: “How do I tell an old friend that I’m not interested in reconnecting?”
Dear Captain Awkward, I have an awkward social situation that I'm not sure how to handle. It's been causing me a bit of anxiety, and so I've been avoiding dealing with it. Recently I have had a rash of old friends who I am no longer close with contact me, wanting to either catch up … Continue reading #1042: “How do I tell an old friend that I’m not interested in reconnecting?”
#977: “I just don’t want to be your friend:” “No thanks!” is NOT mean.
Hi Capt, Surely this has been asked before, but I can't find anything this straightforward in the archive. What do you say when someone wants to be your friend but you just don't like them? I feel like at any given time there are a few people in my life who really want to be … Continue reading #977: “I just don’t want to be your friend:” “No thanks!” is NOT mean.
#791: Feeling slighted and unmoored in a friendship and looking for ways to connect.
Hi Captain Awkward, You are a great resource, and I've referred a lot of friends to your blog. My problem is something I think I should totally not be having, but I am. I have a friend who I've known for years who will be getting married soon. Suzanne and I used to live together, … Continue reading #791: Feeling slighted and unmoored in a friendship and looking for ways to connect.
#766, #767, #768: Awkward friendships, ahoy!
Hello Captain! I am looking for scripts/advice dealing with a situation that I tangled myself up in. A friend I made over the summer, and became quite close to, recently started giving me the silent treatment (I'd say about a month ago). Although it was hard for me to accept, I decided after olive branching … Continue reading #766, #767, #768: Awkward friendships, ahoy!
#753: The awkward aftermath of ending a friendship with someone you still run into all the time.
Dear Captain Awkward, Last year I ended a friendship “Joe.” Joe is a “misery loves company” kind of guy. He is also immature, manipulative, and vengeful. He will poke at your insecurities when HE feels uncomfortable, just so he isn’t the only one feeling vulnerable at the moment. Example: I once confided in him that … Continue reading #753: The awkward aftermath of ending a friendship with someone you still run into all the time.
#735: “A work-friend wants to drastically escalate the closeness of our friendship. How do I (nicely) rebalance things between us?”
Dear Captain, A few months ago, two of my mutual friends/acquaintances split apart. They were quite close and while I don't know a lot of details, evidence indicates to me (and actually both friends confirmed) that the friendship had turned codependent and one friend decided to make a permanent split for a variety of reasons … Continue reading #735: “A work-friend wants to drastically escalate the closeness of our friendship. How do I (nicely) rebalance things between us?”
#715: “I am not here for your talk of boys.”
Dear Captain, My straight friends will not stop talking about boys. Specifically, if they have boyfriends: How awful their boyfriends and sex lives are (in excruciating detail). If they don't have boyfriends, it's all stuff like the latest japanese dating sim they've found, and how hot the (disturbingly, rapey) plot lines are and dick in … Continue reading #715: “I am not here for your talk of boys.”
#662 and #663: “My Friend, The Skeptic.”
Captain, I was wondering if you could help me sort something out with my friend S. My life has gone through the wringer the past 2 years, in terms of friendship dynamics turning scary and unhealthy, being assaulted/ stalked, my emotionally abusive/ homophobic parents, and the basic drama of becoming an adult. My friends have … Continue reading #662 and #663: “My Friend, The Skeptic.”
#626: Self-care tip: Stop auditioning for the approval of people who dislike you
Hello Captain! I'm writing to you about a lady in my friend group who seems to dislike me very much, and makes social gatherings very uncomfortable. Some back story: I started dating my boyfriend Brad about 4 years ago, and hung out with his friend group consisting of his friend from childhood Jake, Jake's wife … Continue reading #626: Self-care tip: Stop auditioning for the approval of people who dislike you
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