#1207: “I moved away from a roommate who treated me like her on-call therapist, but she won’t let go. How can I tell her ‘nicely’ that I don’t want to be friends anymore?”

This is going to be the first of a two-part series on how people who can't hear the word 'no' are not your friends. Hey Captain! I (she/her) just moved out of a group house. I lived with five other people in the house, including a couple (Elsie and Jenna). Elsie (she/her) and I are … Continue reading #1207: “I moved away from a roommate who treated me like her on-call therapist, but she won’t let go. How can I tell her ‘nicely’ that I don’t want to be friends anymore?”

#1158: “What do you owe a former friend when you end a relationship?”

Dear Captain Awkward, FYI: she/her pronouns for me and "Amy" I had a falling out with a friend and do not want to try to repair the relationship. I am wondering what I owe this former friend, in terms of an explanation for why things have gone cold between us. This friend and I are … Continue reading #1158: “What do you owe a former friend when you end a relationship?”

#1042: “How do I tell an old friend that I’m not interested in reconnecting?”

Dear Captain Awkward, I have an awkward social situation that I'm not sure how to handle. It's been causing me a bit of anxiety, and so I've been avoiding dealing with it. Recently I have had a rash of old friends who I am no longer close with contact me, wanting to either catch up … Continue reading #1042: “How do I tell an old friend that I’m not interested in reconnecting?”

#977: “I just don’t want to be your friend:” “No thanks!” is NOT mean.

Hi Capt, Surely this has been asked before, but I can't find anything this straightforward in the archive. What do you say when someone wants to be your friend but you just don't like them? I feel like at any given time there are a few people in my life who really want to be … Continue reading #977: “I just don’t want to be your friend:” “No thanks!” is NOT mean.

#791: Feeling slighted and unmoored in a friendship and looking for ways to connect.

Hi Captain Awkward, You are a great resource, and I've referred a lot of friends to your blog. My problem is something I think I should totally not be having, but I am. I have a friend who I've known for years who will be getting married soon. Suzanne and I used to live together, … Continue reading #791: Feeling slighted and unmoored in a friendship and looking for ways to connect.

#753: The awkward aftermath of ending a friendship with someone you still run into all the time.

Dear Captain Awkward, Last year I ended a friendship “Joe.” Joe is a “misery loves company” kind of guy. He is also immature, manipulative, and vengeful. He will poke at your insecurities when HE feels uncomfortable, just so he isn’t the only one feeling vulnerable at the moment. Example: I once confided in him that … Continue reading #753: The awkward aftermath of ending a friendship with someone you still run into all the time.