Y'all I have another Vice piece dropping soon and I have to confess I am HOLIDAYED TF OUT RIGHT NOW. Let's talk endings. Breakups. My wheelhouse. We'll call the first one #1240: "How do I approach a friend who doesn't want to talk to me anymore?" Hey Captain Awkward, Here is my dilemma: I am … Continue reading #1240 and #1241: “Closure” Is The Gift You Give Yourself
Hello again! Patrons have sent short questions. I have attempted to answer them. Installment 1 is here. This round: How do I deal with my mom's anxiety about my life, how do I tell a roommate that their helpfulness is not actually helpful, how do I preserve a friendship over distance, how do I build a … Continue reading September 2019 Short Question Grab Bag: Part 2
This is going to be the first of a two-part series on how people who can't hear the word 'no' are not your friends. Hey Captain! I (she/her) just moved out of a group house. I lived with five other people in the house, including a couple (Elsie and Jenna). Elsie (she/her) and I are … Continue reading #1207: “I moved away from a roommate who treated me like her on-call therapist, but she won’t let go. How can I tell her ‘nicely’ that I don’t want to be friends anymore?”
Dear Captain Awkward, FYI: she/her pronouns for me and "Amy" I had a falling out with a friend and do not want to try to repair the relationship. I am wondering what I owe this former friend, in terms of an explanation for why things have gone cold between us. This friend and I are … Continue reading #1158: “What do you owe a former friend when you end a relationship?”
Dear Captain, A year ago I (she, 26) made a male friend (25) over OkCupid. We were both just looking for new people to hang out with, I was lonely after moving to a new city, and also happy to make a male friend because all my other friends are female. We started hanging out pretty regularly, just … Continue reading #1157: The Purple Dildo of Broken Friendship
Dear Captain Awkward, I have an awkward social situation that I'm not sure how to handle. It's been causing me a bit of anxiety, and so I've been avoiding dealing with it. Recently I have had a rash of old friends who I am no longer close with contact me, wanting to either catch up … Continue reading #1042: “How do I tell an old friend that I’m not interested in reconnecting?”
Hi Capt, Surely this has been asked before, but I can't find anything this straightforward in the archive. What do you say when someone wants to be your friend but you just don't like them? I feel like at any given time there are a few people in my life who really want to be … Continue reading #977: “I just don’t want to be your friend:” “No thanks!” is NOT mean.
Hi Captain Awkward, You are a great resource, and I've referred a lot of friends to your blog. My problem is something I think I should totally not be having, but I am. I have a friend who I've known for years who will be getting married soon. Suzanne and I used to live together, … Continue reading #791: Feeling slighted and unmoored in a friendship and looking for ways to connect.
Hello Captain! I am looking for scripts/advice dealing with a situation that I tangled myself up in. A friend I made over the summer, and became quite close to, recently started giving me the silent treatment (I'd say about a month ago). Although it was hard for me to accept, I decided after olive branching … Continue reading #766, #767, #768: Awkward friendships, ahoy!
Dear Captain Awkward, Last year I ended a friendship “Joe.” Joe is a “misery loves company” kind of guy. He is also immature, manipulative, and vengeful. He will poke at your insecurities when HE feels uncomfortable, just so he isn’t the only one feeling vulnerable at the moment. Example: I once confided in him that … Continue reading #753: The awkward aftermath of ending a friendship with someone you still run into all the time.