This post is behind a cut due to intense discussion of sexual violence and stalking behavior. Oh Captain, My Captain! I was in an abusive relationship with a man who raped me multiple times. This was about three years ago, and for awhile I was on track with the healing process. In the meantime, I … Continue reading #529: (un)Fun with tenses: You HAD an abuser. You HAVE a stalker.
Dear Captain & Co., I’m in a wonderful relationship, but we’ve got a Darth Vader ex-girlfriend lurking on the sidelines. When we first started dating she behaved horribly: showing up on his lawn screaming suicide threats when she found out I was over, harassing him for months, hacking his email to get my phone number … Continue reading #520: Getting your stuff back from a Darth Vader ex
I have some practical things to add to today's Bibliomancer column (which I love reading, but today = eeeeeeesh). Letter Writer, whatever you decide to do about investigating & interrogating the effect "Doug" holds on your past, there is some practical shit you can do to get the actual dude out of your actual life. You … Continue reading Adding to what Bookslut said….
Oh Captain, my Captain I broke contact with my family and moved across country from them ten years ago. It was a decision made by several years of mixed bag abuse. My dad is a creepy stalker who still haven't given up and the police have been involved more than once. I have no hope … Continue reading #491: A dream job is taking me back to the city I left 10 years ago to escape my abusive family. How can I keep myself safe?
Hey Captain Awkward, I am the LW of the "how do I break up with my mean ex who scares me?" Recently I have received harassing emails and blog comments from his new girlfriend telling me I am a liar and a bunch of other such things. Also telling me to stop "making up stories of my abuse." … Continue reading #426 & #427: E-blasts from the past.
If reading about suicide and suicidal ideation would be troubling for you, stop here. Dear Captain Awkward, One of my closest friends from university told me that she had been in love with me for about 3 years. She also told me that she was really depressed since leaving university last summer and hated her … Continue reading #361: Friendship, obsession, and depression.
Hello, friends. Here is a photo of a calming manatee and a wee child. Here are baby bunnies sleeping. Here is a female film director holding her Oscars. This is Bates from Downton Abbey wearing a flannel shirt and holding a baby. This is two female Navy officers kissing and telling. This and this are network … Continue reading #281: Oh goody. More stalking.
Creepily, I can see what Google searches bring people to this blog. Sometimes it's fun to try to help these searchers out. "I think I'm very unattracted to my boyfriend, is that a good reason to break up?" Yes. One of the best, in fact. "Do I text the girl that blew me?" Depends. Do … Continue reading Live from the search terms!
Hi Captain, I'm in a bit of a pickle, so I'm hoping you might be able to give me some advice. I broke up with my boyfriend about two years ago, after being in a relationship for about as long. Now, unfortunately, he sent me an email asking me which job to pick (one is … Continue reading #262: An ex who won’t let go.
Dear Captain, As a single woman working in a male dominated field, I do run into some weird situations. But I've never been confronted by a jealous wife before. A year ago I relocated to a city about an hour's drive from home so that I could be closer to my new job. A few … Continue reading Question #165: How do I deal with my coworker and his toxic, jealous wife?