Behind a cut for me ranting about pervs in the academy. Dear Captain, As a college student (I graduated within the last few years), I worked with an older married man, let's call him Dave, in multiple capacities as a student and intern throughout my four years at the school. Dave was more or less … Continue reading #1123: Blanket statement: DON’T FUCK YOUR STUDENTS
Content note: After the jump I mention Rape Threats Dudes Have Sent Me for saying what I think about creepy dudes. Dear Captain, Over the past several years I've drifted to the periphery of a friend group where one member is a sexist creep. I immediately found him slimy and pushy and off-putting upon meeting … Continue reading #1120: The Creepy Guy In The Friend Group, Revisited: Four More Geek Social Fallacies
Behind a cut for sexual coercion and general ickiness. Ahoy there Cap'n, I require some assistance please. I have a male friend who I've known for about three years, after we met on a mutual friend's birthday trip. We kept in contact after the holiday and in the last year since he moved back to … Continue reading #823: Another Day, Another Creepy Dude Who Doesn’t Deserve Friends
Thanks (?) to the nice Twitter friends who clued me into this horrible WikiHow on How To Stop A Wedding, or, as @KristinMuH put it, "a manual to help stalkers ruin their target's special occasions." While I once joked that I would like to see this happen someday, it was, in fact, a joke. And … Continue reading It Came From The Search Terms: May Flowers
Edited to Add: Relevant to our interests, here is the great Mikki Kendall, who recently co-launched a blog at Hood Feminism, writing at The Toast about the problem of abusers & enablers in progressive spaces. /Edit There is a lot of violence and rape culture stuff discussed at these links, so if that's not stuff you can … Continue reading Predator Prevention – Links
Behind a cut for sure. Reasons are in the title, and it gets pretty detailed, so be warned. Dear Captain Awkward (or appropriate guest blogger), I recently had a fight with my mom over the definition of rape and the concept of enthusiastic consent and I don't know how to handle the outcome right now. First I … Continue reading #394: Discussing consent & rape with my mom is leaving us both shredded.