The problem with ultimatums is sometimes people take you up on them.
Behind a cut for mention of physical and emotional abuse of adult children by parents as well as some frustrations and victim-blaming attitudes that are common in friends and support networks of people who are embroiled in abusive situations. Abusers ruin everything, pretty much. Dear Captain Awkward, I (31, nb, he/him) have a friend who … Continue reading #1277: “Abuse, agency, and the limits of advice.”
Hi Captain! I'm 24 years old, and next year I'm undergoing the "consecration of virgins" ceremony from Catholic tradition, where essentially I agree to give up romantic attatchments and "marry" myself to God, like halfway to being a nun. I'm very excited about this, and have already started plans for the ceremony, including dresses and … Continue reading #1203: “I’m getting married to God. How do I tell my family they’re not invited?”
Dear Captain Awkward, I've been reading your blog for awhile and just love it! Your answers and the community here are both awesome. So thanks. My question is really tough and I'm afraid your answer is going to be "there is no actual compromise possible here." But I'm going to try. My husband and I … Continue reading #969: “When spouses don’t agree about birth control.”
Hello! This is a question that is hopefully less fraught than a few of the other Holiday Questions and I hope will be an easy question for you all to answer. My partner and I have been living together for over a year and together for much longer than that; it is a thoughtful, committed … Continue reading #797: Hark, Yon Sinful Bed Of The Unmarried!
Hi Captain Awkward and Army, I am currently teaching English at a public school in South Korea. I also identify as culturally Jewish, religiously agnostic/humanist/spiritual/existentialist/questioning/whothehellknows and believe that people can and should believe in whatever they want or have to believe in, whatever makes them comfortable and happy, as long as that belief doesn't negatively … Continue reading #680: Dealing with unhelpful and unsolicited attempts at conversion.
Dear Captain, Last Fall, I began dating an awesome guy. He's nerdy, a real feminist, and is just as much in love with me as I am with him. Things have been great and we both know how to use our words to make things even better. As it stands, we're both in this for … Continue reading #585: My church community is angry at me for dating an atheist.
Hi Captain Awkward, I want to preface my email by saying that I really love my mom. I really do. We had a great relationship when I was growing up and we still do, for the most part. Generally she is an accepting, loving, level-headed person, albeit gullible at times. She is a Christian and … Continue reading #357: Dispatches from the Mean Old People Internet
Dear Captain Awkward: I've been a closet atheist for almost five years, and it's getting kind of stuffy in here. Here's some background: I'm a Dawoodi Bohra Muslim, which is sort of like the Muslim equivalent of the Catholic Church, only smaller. We have organized clergy, a pope-like figure, etc, etc. My parents are devout. … Continue reading #238: If I tell my parents I am an atheist, they will disown me (or worse).