Dear Captain Awkward, So, I'm having trouble with my mom and I'm not sure if it's a me-problem or a her-problem or a "no one did anything wrong but it's just uncomfortable" problem. When I started college (and became an adult-ish) my mom has opened up to me about a lot of things that she … Continue reading #531: When a parent wants you to be their marriage counselor.
Dear Captain Awkward (And Awkwardeers), I've been in a fantastic relationship with my partner for a few years now. He's incredibly supportive of my mental health, and complements my personality perfectly. However, and this may seem a silly concern, I'm worried about the fact that we never argue. Basically, I'm concerned that this might mean … Continue reading #524: How do I fight with my partner without ruining everything?
This is the last day of the Summer Pledge Drive, where I post the links for making a (non-tax deductible) gift through PayPal or via Dwolla. Your generosity so far has been amazing and I am so humbled and pleased with the outpouring of support. A new computer will be within reach when this one goes. I … Continue reading #508 & #509: Friendship, Attachment Styles & Boundaries
Twice a year, I hold out the tip jar and invite readers who are able to kick in a few $ to support the site. If you like what you read here and find it helpful, please consider making a (non-tax deductible) gift through PayPal or via Dwolla (for which you must be in the USA with a bank account). … Continue reading #505: Star-crossed or just incompatible? + Summer Pledge Drive Begins
Dear Captain Awkward, I have a pretty simple question. How do I nurture my own sense of romance? A bit of background: I'm a twenty one year old queer girl. I was born in Mississippi, though I spent my teenage years in the north east. I've never dated a girl because of my own issues … Continue reading Guest Post #499: Muddling Productively In Search of Romance
[Content note: purity culture] Dear Captain Awkward, I am married. My husband is a very lovely, supportive man, very devoted and considerate, and a great father to our small child. We've been together nearly a decade, and married for most of that time. We are a good partnership. He was the first person I ever … Continue reading Guest Post #496: I No Longer Have Pantsfeelings for the Only Partner I’ve Had
Dear Captain and co. This is a not-quite problem that’s separated into two parts. I’m not interested in sex or dating/relationships. I’m not comfortable at the moment categorising myself as asexual/aromantic, although maybe at some point in the future if I find it’s convenient. Essentially I’m happy with the ‘’it happens if it happens’’ mentality, … Continue reading #492: I am so not into the whole dating thing. How do I talk about that with people who are?
Hello Captain and Company! About a year and a half ago I had my primary outbreak of genital herpes. It was excruciating, both physically and emotionally, but I'm finally starting to pick up the pieces and feel like myself again. I'm starting to feel like I maybe want to date again, finally (yay), but I'd … Continue reading #484: “How do I minimize embarrassment when telling a partner that I have a body and a past?”
Dear Captain Awkward, Over the last four years, my husband and I have narrowed our social circle to where we only have a few friends who we see regularly, most of whom were initially my friends rather than his. But basically, we're each others' social plans almost all of the time. This is especially true … Continue reading #475: How do I help my lonely husband make some friends? and #476: Tired of the same old college scene
Dear Cap'n, I don't know how best to help my DH. This message follows us having a long, slightly drunk but happy and loving chat about his life. DH's family history is complicated. His upbringing includes some things which, when we talk about them, he agrees were "probably abuse", but explains that he's somewhat normalised … Continue reading #467: How do I help my partner communicate better with his family?