Edited to Add: Relevant to our interests, here is the great Mikki Kendall, who recently co-launched a blog at Hood Feminism, writing at The Toast about the problem of abusers & enablers in progressive spaces. /Edit There is a lot of violence and rape culture stuff discussed at these links, so if that's not stuff you can … Continue reading Predator Prevention – Links
Behind a cut for sure. Reasons are in the title, and it gets pretty detailed, so be warned. Dear Captain Awkward (or appropriate guest blogger), I recently had a fight with my mom over the definition of rape and the concept of enthusiastic consent and I don't know how to handle the outcome right now. First I … Continue reading #394: Discussing consent & rape with my mom is leaving us both shredded.
How great is this tip for dealing with people who invade your personal space? Since there's no transcript at the link, I'll tell you: When someone comes up behind you and is too close, get visibly and audibly startled ( "Aaaah! Yikes!") and move back. You want people to turn around and look at what's … Continue reading #393: My friends keep inviting my abusive ex and me to the same parties, despite being asked directly not to.
I guess we're just going to keep going with yesterday's theme. Behind the jump because it's depressing as fuck. Hi, Captain A! I have a guy friend. We get along really well, and can talk for hours about our common interests. While we seldom make specific plans to hang, it's great to chat at group … Continue reading #324: “My friend, the rapist.”
Here is Letter #322. It and the other letter are below the jump because it's fucking creepy in there. Edited to Add: It's frankly depressing that this post has struck a chord with so many people, but I'm grateful and honored to be able to help the letter writers and to have given voice to … Continue reading #322 & #323 “My friend group has a case of the Creepy Dude. How do we clear that up?”
You guys, sorry to go all serious and unfunny on you, but I am incredibly creeped out at the news reports of what happened to the CBS News reporter* and her crew in Egypt, especially the ones that need to mention that she was an "attractive blonde" so that you can really, really picture it. … Continue reading Rape: Awkward.