Captain, my Captain! I've looked through the archives, and while you've answered similar-ish questions, this one hasn't come up before, so I'm hoping you can help! I (she/her) work as a freelance editor and am in a fairly privileged position––I have enough clients that I can afford to be somewhat choosy; I'm white and cisgender, … Continue reading #1195: How to give a client feedback when the feedback is “You’re racist.”
Dear Captain Awkward, I have a great younger brother who realized he was gay and came out a few years ago in his mid-twenties, which was met generally with cheerful support by family and friends. Coming out really kickstarted his interest in social justice issues, which is awesome; we both grew up in a fairly … Continue reading #1190 Guest Post: “When ‘Woke’ Becomes A Fetish”
Behind a cut for this dude's gross, racist opinions. Situation: I'm a white lesbian who's roommates with a white straight guy who is also a friend and coworker. Problem: He keeps talking about his penis. You see, his penis has likes and dislikes, and its preferences have a LOT to say about western civilization and … Continue reading #1090: “Emotional labor and my roommate’s love life”
Hello, Cap and friends! I have a couple of questions about boundary-setting with people who don't believe in boundaries. The Awkward team's advice and scripts on setting boundaries have been so wonderfully helpful in my life, but what (if anything) can you say to people who believe that setting boundaries in a family is controlling? … Continue reading #917: “How to set boundaries with people who think boundaries and hurt are manipulative? AKA Help implementing boundary advice?”
Hello Captain Awkward! I love your blog. I love it so much that I've read through your archives and found a few questions that are cousins to, but not quite the same as mine, so here goes: I am in my mid twenties and work at a nonprofit in a large, diverse (racially/ethnically, economically, politically) … Continue reading #710: I love my volunteers (but not the racist ones).
Hello Captain! I have a question about racist strangers who think I am their friend. Occasionally, I'll be out in public waiting in line, reading at the library or just waiting for the bus and a stranger will approach me and feel compelled to make a racist observation about someone else who is present. I … Continue reading #522: Dealing with chatty racist strangers
Dear Captain Awkward, I have a dilemma that I suspect is quite common, but I'm still running into mental roadblocks as to how to properly approach it. Background: I'm a lesbian and a big-eff Feminist working in a male-dominated field, in a male-dominated company. I've worked marketing, event planning and PR for rape crisis centres, … Continue reading #395: Confronting offensive bosses and coworkers.
Hi Captain Awkward, I want to preface my email by saying that I really love my mom. I really do. We had a great relationship when I was growing up and we still do, for the most part. Generally she is an accepting, loving, level-headed person, albeit gullible at times. She is a Christian and … Continue reading #357: Dispatches from the Mean Old People Internet
Hi Captain, please help! I am a white woman in my mid-twenties. My husband is a black man in his late twenties. The interracial thing is almost always fine and awesome for us, we both have pretty excellent family members and friends but there is one problem. That problem is my (white, of course) auntie. … Continue reading Reader question #81: Defusing a racist relative