The problem with ultimatums is sometimes people take you up on them.
Hey Captain! I (she/her) really appreciated your response to Miserable In Quarantine. My partner (he/him) and I are fortunately getting along better than ever. It’s nice to remember that we are friends first with all this extra time. Even with (especially with) all this extra closeness, my partner and I totally agree with the importance … Continue reading #1265: Guest Post: Lockdown Co-Parenting: Can I Please Get Some Alone Time? #COVID-19
Hello, monthly feature with short questions from patrons continues from the previous chapter. Q7: I am single in my 40s and have never had a serious long-term partner. I used to think I hadn’t met the right person yet but have recently come to understand that I’m aromantic (and probably demisexual - not ace but … Continue reading Short Questions for August 2019: Part 2 of 2
Dear Captain Awkward; Hello! I am 48 years old, pronouns she/her, and having trouble with my parents, specifically, my mother and her hoarding. My mom is trying to give more stuff to me than I can handle, and the lever she pulls to make it more painful is, "but it was your grandmother's." if I … Continue reading #1216 and #1217: The Weight Of Parental Love and Things And Time And “Help.”
Hi Cap! So, there's this community space I enjoy using with my toddler and babies, and there's this older lady volunteer there who will. not. leave. the. babies. alone. (With the framing of "she's just trying to help.") She hovers over the babies, she micromanages where we're sitting or where we put our stroller, and … Continue reading #1214: “Kid’s place volunteer won’t leave my twin babies alone.”
Parenting in these Interesting Times is pretty awful sometimes. It’s also incredible and brings me more hope than nearly anything else has in the last 3 years, though. My husband and I have three kids. They’re 12, 9, and 8 years old and we’ve been open and honest with them since they were born. We’re … Continue reading Guest Post: Talking To Your Kids About Scary Things In The News
Dear Captain Awkward, A couple of weeks ago, I tried one of your scripts on my parents to ask them to stay in a hotel when they visit. My wife and I have a two-month old baby. Any house guests are disruptive, especially with a newborn in the house. But my parents are the most … Continue reading #773: Grandparents, visits, and boundaries
Hello! I didn't find anything in the archives so I hope I'm not asking this when it's been covered before. My boyfriend and I live together with his 11 y/o daughter, and I'm having some trouble figuring out how to be "dad's girlfriend." Quick background: My boyfriend (we'll call him A) had his daughter (N) … Continue reading #441: Feeling my way as live-in girlfriend to father of an 11-year-old girl
Dear Captain Awkward: Quick backstory: my mom and stepdad babysit my daughter for free one afternoon a week while I work (I telecommute the rest of the time). My mother offered to do it right after my daughter was born and I was thrilled. I've checked in with both of them a few times to … Continue reading #435: Getting the silent treatment for an honest mistake.
Hi Captain Awkward, Thank you so much for your wonderful column. My parents are very loving and I have a generally good relationship with them. I see them once a week or so, and I generally enjoy spending time with them. My mother and I have opposite ways of communicating, though: she simply … Continue reading #352: How do I get my mom to chill out about my baby? (spoiler, you probably can’t)