Hello! It's time for the monthly ritual where I answer short questions and give priority to the patrons who keep the lights on and the web-hamsters running. We've got twelve questions this week, I've written up the first batch and will post the rest later in the weekend. Topics: Passive-aggressive coworkers, celebrating a climb out … Continue reading Short Question & Answer Friday, July 26, 2019: Part 1 of 2
Hi Captain- TW for mention of suicide/suicidal ideation, if you would appreciate the warning ("mention" like "this thing exists in my past" mention). I started a new office job (my first office job, though not my first 9-5) four months ago, and so far it's been great! It's a smallish office- about 30 people- as … Continue reading #770: Coworker’s thoughtless comments are triggering me.
Behind a cut for a discussion of suicidal ideation, obsession, and suicide. The post has been edited a bit from its original form thanks to constructive feedback from commenters on ways that word use heightened stigma around mental illness around suicide. I deeply apologize and hope that this draft serves the LW without making the … Continue reading #748: I feel responsible for my friend’s suicide and his family agrees.
Captain, I was wondering if you could help me sort something out with my friend S. My life has gone through the wringer the past 2 years, in terms of friendship dynamics turning scary and unhealthy, being assaulted/ stalked, my emotionally abusive/ homophobic parents, and the basic drama of becoming an adult. My friends have … Continue reading #662 and #663: “My Friend, The Skeptic.”
Hello, readers. My friend Anuradha Rana and her colleague Doris Rusch are looking for documentary subjects and collaborators for a transmedia (game, audio, video) project on emotional health and wellbeing among young people. She is a regular reader of the blog and asked me to share her project and call for volunteers with the community here. Here … Continue reading Transmedia Project on Emotional Health & Wellbeing – Chicago
Dear Captain Awkward: How do I see the whole of a person? Hello! I was hoping you could help me with something. There is a guy at uni I am friends with, who has depression. Over the past semester at uni, we have grown very close, mostly on the basis of me becoming the person … Continue reading #511: When you find out that someone you care about is mean.
Before we jump into sad, serious things, Gollum dreamed a dream (of coming to your party?) Courtesy of my friend @spyscribe. You guys watch The Lizzie Bennet Diaries, right? Now, some letters about living situations gone bad (#451) and very, very bad (#452). Dearest Captain, I need some help with relationship ambivalence. It's been 3 years … Continue reading Cohabitation Situations: Ambivalence Deliverance (#451) & Eviction Prescription (#452)
Hey, Captain and Co. I spent the past two years of my life being really depressed (and, honestly, who knows how long before that -- I was only diagnosed last year, but I've felt pretty awful for as long as I can remember), and, through some supportive parents and medication and an awesome partner and … Continue reading #450: How to tighten up your game at work when you’re depressed.
Oh Captain, my Captain! I need some help. Last year, I was in an abusive relationship. My ex raped me repeatedly and often manipulated me. When we were together, I became close friends with another guy. Guy #2 eventually owned up to having feelings for me, and I found myself in a very awkward position. … Continue reading #437: Out of the frying pan, into the adjacent teakettle of badness.
Dear Captain Awkward: I need some advice on being a decent human being. My wife and I have been together for 8 years, married for 5. She has severe depression and anxiety. She's been in therapy since before I met her, but her illnesses still hit her pretty hard. I do as much as I … Continue reading #429 & #430: When depression is contagious.