Content note: Mention of suicide Dear Captain Awkward 2 weeks ago my boyfriend (he/him/his) of 2 years made the decision to break up with me (cis/female). I moved out of our shared house and back with my parents and sister. I did not want the relationship to end and I hoped we could have worked … Continue reading #1250: How do I support my (very-recently) ex-partner through his complex grief?
Content note: Letter mentions the long-ago death of a child. Dear Captain Awkward, Almost 14 years ago, my second child was born and died the next day. We received a very serious medical diagnosis mid-way through the pregnancy, so his death was not entirely unexpected. When he died, there was already a lot of drama … Continue reading #1210: “My sister offers annual grief support that I don’t want.”
Dear Captain Awkward, After almost a year of planning, we're in the home stretch before my wedding day in early May. Everything was lining up smoothly until I reached out for RSVPs that hadn't been received yet, namely my stepdad, my aunt, and my grandmother (my dead mom's sister and mother). These are my only … Continue reading #1188: Grief and the empty chairs at the wedding feast.
Dear Captain, I am a female self-employed professional in a male dominated profession in her early 30s. My friend is a female of a similar age who is also a self-employed professional in the same profession. This person was my closest female friend in the profession. We would socialise and when things were going badly … Continue reading #1100: “My friend is withdrawing from me, and it really hurts.”
Dear Captain, I've (27F) have been dating my boyfriend (33M) for about 6 months and things are wonderful. We've talked seriously about a future together and he's a great partner. He has invited me to spend Thanksgiving week with his dad, brother, and sister-in-law on the West Coast. *However*, his mom passed away suddenly earlier … Continue reading #1052: “I’m meeting my boyfriend’s family this Thanksgiving. They’re all grieving the recent death of his mom. How do I be a good guest?”
Ahoy, Captain! My mother died suddenly earlier this year. She and my father lived in a kinda remote area, 600 miles from my current residence. Pops is now getting ready to maybe think about moving to a zip code that has more humans than cows. Here's the problem: Mama and Pops spent most of their … Continue reading #757: Aging, grief, and STUFF: A f*load of feelings
Hi Captain! What do you do when someone who treated you badly dies? I went to school in a small town, an “everyone kind of knows everyone somehow”-type place. This isn’t really my type of place, and I left to attend a big university in a big city. I return to the town during breaks, … Continue reading #579 and #580 “I’m so sorry for your loss” “No loss, really!”
Dear Captain Awkward, My mom died suddenly and unexpectedly 2 months ago. My parents had been married almost 40 years. A month after her passing, I accidentally discovered that my dad has been sleeping with multiple men he meets on the internet, at the gym, etc., and that he is also having sex in public … Continue reading #464: My mom died and my dad started having sex with men. A LOT of men. Should I talk to him about it?
Dear Captain, I am in my mid-twenties and my fiancé died in early 2011. I coped better than I thought I would (he was sick for some time before he died so there was time to wonder) and have continued on with my life in many ways, but I do still miss him and think … Continue reading #365: Dating after death.
Dear Captain A, I've been friends with my friend, B, since 2004. We had a short but really important lovership in 2006, had a hard breakup, but then rebuilt our friendship. For the past five years, he's been someone I've considered family and my best friend. We referred to each other as 'non sexual life … Continue reading #333 & #334: Friendships, breakups, poetry, and WTF?