Commander Logic here.
I have been a geek and loved geeks since I began having relationships outside my family, and I have to say that The 5 Geek Social Fallacies rang true to me in that particular self-recognition-wince way. And Holly’s 5 Geek Sexual Fallacies were helpful too! DUDE, SO HELPFUL.
But I feel like there’s still room for one more Geek Fallacy list, and this is one for Geek Relationships. Have we gotten past the “Geeks are unloveable losers” trope yet? Geeks have relationships and the particular pitfalls for my logical, overthinking ilk deserve mention.
Now, remember folks! Just because you are a geek doesn’t mean you are a carrier for any of these fallacies, and just because you’re NOT a geek doesn’t mean you aren’t a carrier.
1 – “Logic Wins.”
Emotions are difficult, so let’s keep everything logical and then we will never have problems. The person who is having emotions outside those that are expected is weak and the loser and – worst of all – wrong.
2 – “Disagreements mean we have to break up”
Wanting to make a change in the relationship means the relationship is flawed, and therefore unsustainable.
3 – “Change = Social Death”
Changes in a relationship (starting to date or breaking up) will disrupt the surrounding friend group.
4 – “Love me, love my obsession. Love my obsession, love me.”
You both have to love everything in the same way with the same intensity. – If you love the same thing and you are gender-appropriate, you HAVE to date.
5 – “We are the only members of our species.”
Our geekdom is so idiosyncratic that if we break up/don’t start a relationship, we will never find another suitable person to love.
Let’s get a little further inside these fallacies, shall we?