Hi Captain, My estranged father is about to die (I am working with family to make the degree of peace with which I feel comfortable). My mother died about a decade ago. Besides the problem of anticipatory grieving and emotions feelings around an estrangement, I am struggling with a desire not to go to his … Continue reading #1187: “People from my past at my estranged father’s funeral (do not want).”
Dear Captain, Longtime lurker, first time LW. Thanks for providing such a safe, thoughtful & humorous space for thinking through life's issues. My ex-stepfather (XSF) is elderly, ill & failing. I foresee him dying sometime in the next year or so. I do not wish to go to his funeral, but I believe many members … Continue reading #1067: “Boycotting my ex stepdad’s funeral.”
Hi Captain! Husband and I have been married a year and to make a long back-story short, I have found your responses re: “dealing with difficult people” immensely helpful for dealing with my MIL. So here’s the current issue: while my in-laws have very few lasting friends, they do consider themselves close to my FIL’s … Continue reading #686: “Help, I’m being pressured to attend funerals by a manipulative family member.”
Hi Captain! What do you do when someone who treated you badly dies? I went to school in a small town, an “everyone kind of knows everyone somehow”-type place. This isn’t really my type of place, and I left to attend a big university in a big city. I return to the town during breaks, … Continue reading #579 and #580 “I’m so sorry for your loss” “No loss, really!”
Hey there, Cap! Looks like it's time for me to beg your advice again. So, here's the deal. Once upon a time I had a grandmother, who was kind of a great big jerk. But in that gaslighty way that makes you think maybe she's not so bad? I think she pulled favorites a lot, … Continue reading #318: Death and people you don’t like.
Dear Captain Awkward, I have some pretty intense reactions to being physically touched. Basically, I can’t stand being physically touched by most people – and I especially don’t like being hugged. It makes me feel trapped and physically sick. I’ve learnt to deal with it on occasions where it would be awkward or rude not … Continue reading Question #154: I have extreme anxiety about being touched and hugged. How do I survive an upcoming funeral?