Dear Cap, I am an insecure introvert with a big ol mouth and the occasional attitude problem. I've worked a lot on being more careful with what I say and keeping work relationships more professional than personal. Then I switched to teaching. Teaching, as I have found, builds a kind of in-the-trenches bond with your … Continue reading #971: Fear of missing out on the work social scene: Everybody is hanging out without me.
Hi Captain Awkward, I find myself in a very awkward but relatively low-stakes situation with a classmate. There is a woman in my cohort at college who has this weird habit of rescheduling other students' social events (not just mine, but mostly mine). For example, someone invites the group by email out to go hiking, … Continue reading #897: “Every time I invite our friends to something, this person suggests a competing event.”
Hi Captain Awkward, You are a great resource, and I've referred a lot of friends to your blog. My problem is something I think I should totally not be having, but I am. I have a friend who I've known for years who will be getting married soon. Suzanne and I used to live together, … Continue reading #791: Feeling slighted and unmoored in a friendship and looking for ways to connect.
Dear Captain Awkward, I began dating someone in August even though we both knew we were moving to different cities at the end of the month. August was great, I learned more about what I want in a relationship, and we left on good terms. This person was in my new city recently (in early … Continue reading #771: Apology or Apologia?
Hello Captain! I am looking for scripts/advice dealing with a situation that I tangled myself up in. A friend I made over the summer, and became quite close to, recently started giving me the silent treatment (I'd say about a month ago). Although it was hard for me to accept, I decided after olive branching … Continue reading #766, #767, #768: Awkward friendships, ahoy!
Dear Captain Awkward, Lately I’ve run into a stupid issue that I just can’t seem to get over. I have two friends (let’s call them Raoul and Christine, for convenience’s sake) that I have known for a very long time and recently, they told me that they were in a relationship. I’ve known Christine for … Continue reading #750: “Mutual friends I think are ill-suited to one another have started dating each other.”
Dear Captain, I have a friend that I've known since high school (we're both in our thirties now) and I consider her a good friend. Over the years we've gone through phases where we're more apart and distant (mostly from living in other states or distant parts of the country from each other and only … Continue reading #726: “I want to talk to my *friend,* not my professional-advice-giver friend.”
Hi Captain, I'm a twenty something female working in a retail job where it's NECESSARY to work as a team. In the six months I've been at my job, I've built especially great rapport with a few people. The man henceforth named Paul is one of them. Paul is a year younger than me. Most … Continue reading #721: The Feelings Hangover From An Unspoken Crush
Dear Captain, My straight friends will not stop talking about boys. Specifically, if they have boyfriends: How awful their boyfriends and sex lives are (in excruciating detail). If they don't have boyfriends, it's all stuff like the latest japanese dating sim they've found, and how hot the (disturbingly, rapey) plot lines are and dick in … Continue reading #715: “I am not here for your talk of boys.”
Thanks (?) to the nice Twitter friends who clued me into this horrible WikiHow on How To Stop A Wedding, or, as @KristinMuH put it, "a manual to help stalkers ruin their target's special occasions." While I once joked that I would like to see this happen someday, it was, in fact, a joke. And … Continue reading It Came From The Search Terms: May Flowers