#971: Fear of missing out on the work social scene: Everybody is hanging out without me.

Dear Cap, I am an insecure introvert with a big ol mouth and the occasional attitude problem. I've worked a lot on being more careful with what I say and keeping work relationships more professional than personal. Then I switched to teaching. Teaching, as I have found, builds a kind of in-the-trenches bond with your … Continue reading #971: Fear of missing out on the work social scene: Everybody is hanging out without me.

#897: “Every time I invite our friends to something, this person suggests a competing event.”

Hi Captain Awkward, I find myself in a very awkward but relatively low-stakes situation with a classmate. There is a woman in my cohort at college who has this weird habit of rescheduling other students' social events (not just mine, but mostly mine). For example, someone invites the group by email out to go hiking, … Continue reading #897: “Every time I invite our friends to something, this person suggests a competing event.”

#791: Feeling slighted and unmoored in a friendship and looking for ways to connect.

Hi Captain Awkward, You are a great resource, and I've referred a lot of friends to your blog. My problem is something I think I should totally not be having, but I am. I have a friend who I've known for years who will be getting married soon. Suzanne and I used to live together, … Continue reading #791: Feeling slighted and unmoored in a friendship and looking for ways to connect.

#750: “Mutual friends I think are ill-suited to one another have started dating each other.”

Dear Captain Awkward, Lately I’ve run into a stupid issue that I just can’t seem to get over. I have two friends (let’s call them Raoul and Christine, for convenience’s sake) that I have known for a very long time and recently, they told me that they were in a relationship. I’ve known Christine for … Continue reading #750: “Mutual friends I think are ill-suited to one another have started dating each other.”

#726: “I want to talk to my *friend,* not my professional-advice-giver friend.”

Dear Captain, I have a friend that I've known since high school (we're both in our thirties now) and I consider her a good friend. Over the years we've gone through phases where we're more apart and distant (mostly from living in other states or distant parts of the country from each other and only … Continue reading #726: “I want to talk to my *friend,* not my professional-advice-giver friend.”

#715: “I am not here for your talk of boys.”

Dear Captain, My straight friends will not stop talking about boys. Specifically, if they have boyfriends: How awful their boyfriends and sex lives are (in excruciating detail). If they don't have boyfriends, it's all stuff like the latest japanese dating sim they've found, and how hot the (disturbingly, rapey) plot lines are and dick in … Continue reading #715: “I am not here for your talk of boys.”