Behind a cut for emotional abuse, misogyny, and discussion of these things as specifically related to recent gun violence and the possibility thereof, which is not what the Letter Writer asked, but definitely something I saw in the question. I did a giant dump of cat photos for patrons if you need to click on … Continue reading #1222: “Love my family, hate my mean red-pilling brother who is always around.”
Hello Captain! Something has been bothering me for a long time - I have been accused of "leading guys on." When this happened in college and grad school, I shrugged it off because the guys who would accuse me of this were always ones that took any female attention as romantic interest in them or … Continue reading #657: Asshole-to-English Translator: “You just like leading guys on” = “I am a creepy asshole who doesn’t think you are allowed to say ‘no.'”
People are always telling me I could be attractive if I wanted to, and I acknowledge the truth of this - thing is, I don't want to. I don't care about my appearance beyond being clean and presentable. I'm not interested in putting more effort in just to please other people, and I'm perfectly comfortable … Continue reading #397: Pretty should be optional.
Like Swimming After Eating A Burrito: Dating Advice From The Wrong Side from In Our Words. There's a lot of great, insightful stuff in here, but this is my favorite part of the piece: "Are they a jerk to other people? They’re probably also a jerk to you. I used to be one of those people … Continue reading Saturday Links
Dear Captain Awkward, Due to a current organizing position I hold I have been asked to deliver brief presentations to each of the Greek chapters on my campus discussing the importance of women’s reproductive health issues in the upcoming election and subsequently registering people to vote while perhaps even sneaking in tidbits about safe sex … Continue reading #350: Let’s crowdsource some feminist sex ed for frat guys.
Dear Captain Awkward, My boyfriend and I met in college, and are following similar career paths. We're a little different in the exact path, but it's the same industry. Last month a family member visiting my family said that he was best friends with a head honcho in the industry. He said that my boyfriend … Continue reading #304: Good problems!
Lindy West reacts to a new book by the authors of The Rules with the correct amount of "What the everloving fuck?" (h/t Bitches Gotta Eat) "So, essentially (according to these jokers), online dating is a forum where you put yourself up for auction and then passively watch while men compete for your silent company … Continue reading Linky Links of Linkyness
Hello, Awkwardeers, I'm guest-blogging at Feministe this week and next. I'll still post questions here as time allows, but today's question, How do I define feminism for myself and my future kids?, is over there. My inbox is bursting with questions right now, and some of them are really, really, really long and include all … Continue reading Reader question #98 + Guest-blogging at Feministe + Admin
Dear Captain Awkward, I met a guy. At a club. I know, I know- not usually the place to meet men you want to bring home to mother. But I approached him, we talked for a long time, and we later met up again a few days later. There was a strong attraction, and we … Continue reading Reader question #84: Sailor with a Past
Hey there Captain Awkward! I found your blog a couple months ago and have been reading it religiously ever since! Thanks for all the great advice! I'm a fellow feminist blogger, writing on my blog mendaredo.com, and I have a question for you on dating that I was pondering a bit on my blog. I'm a self-identified … Continue reading Reader question #54: Dating while feminist.