Behind a cut for mention of physical and emotional abuse of adult children by parents as well as some frustrations and victim-blaming attitudes that are common in friends and support networks of people who are embroiled in abusive situations. Abusers ruin everything, pretty much. Dear Captain Awkward, I (31, nb, he/him) have a friend who … Continue reading #1277: “Abuse, agency, and the limits of advice.”
Behind a cut for emotional abuse, misogyny, and discussion of these things as specifically related to recent gun violence and the possibility thereof, which is not what the Letter Writer asked, but definitely something I saw in the question. I did a giant dump of cat photos for patrons if you need to click on … Continue reading #1222: “Love my family, hate my mean red-pilling brother who is always around.”
Dear Captain, My husband (he / him / his) is extremely smart and good in his job, has a close relationship with his sister, and good at figuring out mechanical challenges (e.g., setting up a new type of tent) patiently and thoroughly. But I can’t bear the constant criticism. He’s always miffed about something. It … Continue reading #1218: “Irritability and constant criticism in a marriage.”
Reminder, monthly London meetup is tomorrow. Sorry for not posting this sooner, guys! It's been the week of 1000 meetings. Dear Awkward Army, London meetup this weekend, 23rd March! All welcome. 11:00 am onwards, Leon restaurant, 36/38 Old Compton Street, London, W1D 4TT. The venue so far has worked out well, so I’m sticking with that. … Continue reading London Meetup + #462: When is it time to cut off communication with abusive family?
Dear Captain Awkward: I have had a very complex life in the last couple of years. I have gone from having a fairly normal life in regards to health and then I went on dialysis. Since that point I now have a kidney transplant. My girlfriend currently has a really hard time wrapping her mind … Continue reading #461: My partner makes hurtful jokes about my health situation.
Ahoy thar. Cliff notes time! Over the past four years, I: - dropped out of high school for Multiple Reasons - got a fantastic very-part-time clerical job which, although I don't **LOVE** it 24/7, has great co-workers and doesn't take up too much brainpower (which is good because I have a history of overloading myself … Continue reading #440: “It’s time to get out of my abusive home, but I am afraid to accept help.”
Hi Captain: I was raised by a mom who used the silent treatment. Whenever she was really mad about something- maybe once a month- she'd just shut down for several days at a time and not talk to anyone except to sneer at them. This only applied to people in my immediate family- my dad … Continue reading #339: My mom gives me the silent treatment.
Dear Captain Awkward, I'm in a wonderful, 5-1/2 year relationship with a great guy. It's not all sunshine and roses (what relationship is?) but we've built a solid, great thing based on mutual respect, and I'm 100% sure he's the one I want to spend the rest of my life with/meld my DNA with in … Continue reading #329: My partner won’t set boundaries with his horrible family.
I really, really need commenters who have experience with domestic violence/abuse counseling to weigh in here, thanks. This Letter Writer needs help from someone who doesn't have to Google "domestic violence resources" to answer the question. Captain Awkward, Hi! I'm a 19 year old college student and I live with my parents. It's not an … Continue reading Question #169: My dad hit me.
I played hooky with Commander Logic yesterday, so no posts, sorry! If you've been wondering "Is Hot Doug's still delicious? Is the movie adaptation of Tinker Tailor Soldier Spy a) enjoyable b) a clinic in the importance of lens choice and detail in production design c) a fucking masterpiece of acting in Gary Oldman's performance? … Continue reading Question #167: My mom disowned me on Christmas day.