Dear Captain - I (she/her) am a middle-aged wife of a man (he/him). We've only been married three years (together 8) but it has turned out to be rather nothing like what I wanted marriage to be - and I was not unrealistic! He's emotionally constipated and may also be more intellectually my inferior than … Continue reading #1199: “Hello, I’d rather hang out with my main character than my husband.”
Dear Captain Awkward, My teenager has informed me that their father told them he plans to mail me jewelry for Valentine's Day. Their father and I have been divorced for nearly a decade and a half and I've been in three committed, long-term relationships in that time. I have less-than-zero interest in my ex-husband romantically … Continue reading #1175: “My teenager says their father (my ex of 1.5 decades) is sending me a V-Day Present. Help!”
By request, behind a cut with a content note for past suicidal ideation (that is resolved & the person is safe/ok now). Hello Captain, I write asking for a script. I (she/her pronouns) am leaving my husband of ten years. We have a young child. My husband is not an abuser or a Darth Vader; … Continue reading #1130: “When I told you my marriage is over, it wasn’t an invitation for advice on how to fix it.” + Summer Pledge Drive continues
Hi there, I have a bit of an odd quandary. I am divorced, and I divorced young. My relationship was a very bad and abusive one, and that was a dark time in my life. I have gotten therapy, learned a lot about myself, and I think I'm doing well. It's daily work to deal … Continue reading #899: “Disclosing a long-ago marriage and divorce feels awkward.”
Letter Writers, no one is topping "Dear Sugar" on this topic. Read that and you're probably good. But just in case, your letters and some answers are below. Dear Captain Awkward: I'm 29 and female, and have been in a relationship with the same guy since college. We now live together. He wants to marry … Continue reading #690 and #691: One of life’s saddest lessons is that people don’t have to be awful or evil to be not quite right for you.
Hello awesome awkward people! I'm in a poly relationship, my partner (of four years) has a wife of 20 years (her & I have been really close but have grown more distant the last nine months or so) who has really been struggling the last couple years with what she feels is depression (I'm phrasing … Continue reading #669: “My partner’s wife is a People-Pleaser. Good news, I am a Fixer!”
Dear Captain Awkward, I am a straight male in the process of getting a divorce. I am the one who filed for it. I did so out of necessity because my spouse has been increasingly unstable and abusive throughout the marriage. I spent years telling myself that things would get better any day and that there … Continue reading #604: Is there a Hallmark card for “I got divorced?”
Dear Captain Awkward: Last year, I got divorced. At the time of my divorce, I was offered the legal choice to go back to my maiden name, or to keep my married name. I decided to choose a whole new last name, which was something I had always wanted to do. My new last name … Continue reading #410: How do I tell old professional contacts about my recent name change now that I need a reference?
Hello Awkward - I'm a single father. I married my high school sweetheart and as a consequence, dated very little. So now divorced, I am thrust into this dating life and am finding my way. The dating part comes easy, being a gentleman and forming relationships has gone well. I get that part. My question … Continue reading #346: Single Parent Dating: When is the right time to introduce a new partner to your child?
Dear Captain Awkward, I need a second opinion. I'm at my wits end as to how to address something that has become a large problem with my boyfriend. My friends are no, help; I've gotten lucky, landed a good, caring boy, how could I have problems, lalalala-I-can't-hear-you. I'm glad they approve of him, since I … Continue reading #309 & #310: The Broken Record