Content notes for alcohol addiction, emotional abuse, illness requiring hospitalization. O Captain, My Captain, My mother was always (imo) an emotionally abusive narcissist. I'm the oldest of 3 and the scapegoat. She became an alcoholic when I was 16 or 17, has been hospitalised with liver failure a number of times in the last 12 … Continue reading #1271: “I went no-contact with an abusive parent who is dying now. What are the rules here?”
Content note: Letter mentions the long-ago death of a child. Dear Captain Awkward, Almost 14 years ago, my second child was born and died the next day. We received a very serious medical diagnosis mid-way through the pregnancy, so his death was not entirely unexpected. When he died, there was already a lot of drama … Continue reading #1210: “My sister offers annual grief support that I don’t want.”
Hello! If you'd like a short question answered today, submit it on Twitter (@CAwkward, #awkwardfriday) or as a comment on the Patreon post before noon Chicago time today and I'll get to as many as I can between noon and 1pm. Comments open up after all the answers are posted. So much ground covered today! … Continue reading Short Answers/Chat Today!
Dear Captain: My parents get along pretty well with my father-in-law, let’s call him Peter. He is a widower so they usually invite each other to visit, my husband and I included. We usually have lunch, some bottles of wine and everyone has fun. Last time my parents visited Peter my mother stumbled across an old … Continue reading #881: “Does privacy exist after death?”
Behind a cut because there is some discussion of violence, though the situation is not ongoing. Hello, Captain! I was wondering if you could suggest some scripts on how to breach a delicate and unusual topic with my mom. My dad was murdered, with me as a witness, when I was a small kid. I'm … Continue reading #765: Asking for the truth behind family secrets.
Hi Captain! Husband and I have been married a year and to make a long back-story short, I have found your responses re: “dealing with difficult people” immensely helpful for dealing with my MIL. So here’s the current issue: while my in-laws have very few lasting friends, they do consider themselves close to my FIL’s … Continue reading #686: “Help, I’m being pressured to attend funerals by a manipulative family member.”
Hi Captain! What do you do when someone who treated you badly dies? I went to school in a small town, an “everyone kind of knows everyone somehow”-type place. This isn’t really my type of place, and I left to attend a big university in a big city. I return to the town during breaks, … Continue reading #579 and #580 “I’m so sorry for your loss” “No loss, really!”
Hey there, Cap! Looks like it's time for me to beg your advice again. So, here's the deal. Once upon a time I had a grandmother, who was kind of a great big jerk. But in that gaslighty way that makes you think maybe she's not so bad? I think she pulled favorites a lot, … Continue reading #318: Death and people you don’t like.