#1302: Guest Post: “When your hosts are doing you a favor but their housekeeping habits are making you sad and ill.”

December 7, 2020December 3, 2020 ~ UfYH Rachel

Hello, this week we have a guest post from Rachel Hoffman of Unf*ck Your Habitat blog and book fame about the tricky balance of maintaining your own sanity (and sanitation) in a house where you are a guest.

#1200: “My mom is bugging me to clean my room.”

May 15, 2019May 15, 2019 ~ JenniferP

Dear Captain, About a year ago I was able to save just enough money to say, “F@&$ you!” to a really depressing living situation and moved cross-USA into my mom’s new house in the very expensive area near where I grew up. I’m lucky that my mom and I are fairly compatible personality-wise (and that … Continue reading #1200: “My mom is bugging me to clean my room.”

It Came From The Search Terms: February Seven

February 14, 2019February 14, 2019 ~ JenniferP ~ 133 Comments

It's time to answer the things people typed into search engines as if they are questions. Here is a seasonal jam by The Avett Brothers: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rkVM4AxzxCE Lyrics are here. 1 "I can't stand going to my friend's house because she smokes inside." Legit! I have a very hard time with smoke (asthma trigger), the same … Continue reading It Came From The Search Terms: February Seven

Reader question #67: My wonderful boyfriend has horrible hygiene and a disgusting house. How do I talk to him about it?

June 28, 2011June 28, 2011 ~ JenniferP ~ 41 Comments

Dear Captain Awkward, My boyfriend (late 30s) and I (early 30s) have been dating for about 2 years and pretty much everything is great. He's kind, generous, supportive, and smart; he understands "privilege" and "the kyriarchy"; we have similar goals in life; and the sex is awesome. We're talking about getting married and having kids. … Continue reading Reader question #67: My wonderful boyfriend has horrible hygiene and a disgusting house. How do I talk to him about it?

Reader Question #19: How do I get my flatmates to do their fair share of the chores?

February 21, 2011February 21, 2011 ~ JenniferP ~ 15 Comments

Dear Captain Awkward, Here's the short version of my question: How can I get my flatmates to help with the household chores? Here's the long version: I live with several other adults. They clean the common areas either not at all or on extremely rare occasion. I have lost every game of "kitchen chicken" (where … Continue reading Reader Question #19: How do I get my flatmates to do their fair share of the chores?