#1209: “Is there a way to get good at setting boundaries that isn’t so situation-specific?” (Boundaries School!)

Hello, Captain! Could you talk about how to be good at setting boundaries in a non-situation-specific way? You get a lot of letters from people who are having trouble with someone else not respecting their boundaries, and obviously that is not the time to say "are you sure you really communicated what you meant?" But … Continue reading #1209: “Is there a way to get good at setting boundaries that isn’t so situation-specific?” (Boundaries School!)

#1174: “I guess I have some doppelgängers. How do I be polite about it when someone insists they recognize me but I know they don’t?”

Hi Captain! I live in a largish city and participate in fairly distinct professional and hobbyist circles. Every so often - maybe once a month or so - I meet a new person in one of them, who will swear up and down that they have seen me before, or that they have met me … Continue reading #1174: “I guess I have some doppelgängers. How do I be polite about it when someone insists they recognize me but I know they don’t?”

#1165: “(I think) my only friend won’t hang out with me because of a dead guy.”

Hi Captain, I (she/her) am 39 years old and haven’t had a real friend since I was 23. Due to numerous instances of abandonment and rejection before and since, I’ve developed a form of Social Anxiety where I panic whenever I think someone important to me might, well, abandon or reject me. I’m working on … Continue reading #1165: “(I think) my only friend won’t hang out with me because of a dead guy.”

#989: “Me, my girlfriend, and a giant red flag” or “I’m gay, so why are all these angry men still part of my life?”

This question contains abuse and stalker behaviors. Ahoy! So, my story is a little complicated i guess but ill try and be as concise as possible. For about 2 months now i've been seriously dating a girl i really like and was talking to her everyday for a little while before then. We are officially … Continue reading #989: “Me, my girlfriend, and a giant red flag” or “I’m gay, so why are all these angry men still part of my life?”

#965: “My mom wants me to be her #1 sounding board and support system about her troubled marriage.”

Hi Captain, I am an adult (early 30's) child of two wonderful people who are going through some turbulence in their marriage--that thing of having an empty nest/rediscovering each other/discovering they have communication issues that have just been sitting there for 30+ years and are now blowing up. They're going to get counseling, which hopefully … Continue reading #965: “My mom wants me to be her #1 sounding board and support system about her troubled marriage.”

#917: “How to set boundaries with people who think boundaries and hurt are manipulative? AKA Help implementing boundary advice?”

Hello, Cap and friends! I have a couple of questions about boundary-setting with people who don't believe in boundaries. The Awkward team's advice and scripts on setting boundaries have been so wonderfully helpful in my life, but what (if anything) can you say to people who believe that setting boundaries in a family is controlling? … Continue reading #917: “How to set boundaries with people who think boundaries and hurt are manipulative? AKA Help implementing boundary advice?”