#1282: “I want to support my friend without helping him with all his class assignments.”

Hi Captain, I am trying to figure out how to still be supportive of my friend continuing on to grad school when I recently had to dropout of my own program due to a lot of different reasons (COVID striking my family, online course-work not being a good avenue for me, extra course-work due to … Continue reading #1282: “I want to support my friend without helping him with all his class assignments.”

#1260: “How to maintain boundaries within stressful family relationships during COVID-19 lockdown?”

Hi Captain, My mother and I have always wanted different frequencies of interaction. After I moved out for university, at a holiday party my mother announced the only gift she ever wanted from me was daily phone calls - even her friends were incredulous. She tends to call any hour of the day, hitting redial … Continue reading #1260: “How to maintain boundaries within stressful family relationships during COVID-19 lockdown?”

#1250: How do I support my (very-recently) ex-partner through his complex grief?

Content note: Mention of suicide Dear Captain Awkward 2 weeks ago my boyfriend (he/him/his) of 2 years made the decision to break up with me (cis/female). I moved out of our shared house and back with my parents and sister. I did not want the relationship to end and I hoped we could have worked … Continue reading #1250: How do I support my (very-recently) ex-partner through his complex grief?

“We Are Spartacus!”: Open Thread & Resources On Family Estrangement And Adult Relationships With Difficult Parents

Whenever I write about difficult parent stuff (like yesterday) my inbox immediately gets filled with more difficult parent and family estrangement stuff, which makes sense because, people find out they aren't alone and I have quite a lot to say about difficult parent stuff. It takes...a lot...to write about my family and I know I … Continue reading “We Are Spartacus!”: Open Thread & Resources On Family Estrangement And Adult Relationships With Difficult Parents

#1209: “Is there a way to get good at setting boundaries that isn’t so situation-specific?” (Boundaries School!)

Hello, Captain! Could you talk about how to be good at setting boundaries in a non-situation-specific way? You get a lot of letters from people who are having trouble with someone else not respecting their boundaries, and obviously that is not the time to say "are you sure you really communicated what you meant?" But … Continue reading #1209: “Is there a way to get good at setting boundaries that isn’t so situation-specific?” (Boundaries School!)

#1174: “I guess I have some doppelgängers. How do I be polite about it when someone insists they recognize me but I know they don’t?”

Hi Captain! I live in a largish city and participate in fairly distinct professional and hobbyist circles. Every so often - maybe once a month or so - I meet a new person in one of them, who will swear up and down that they have seen me before, or that they have met me … Continue reading #1174: “I guess I have some doppelgängers. How do I be polite about it when someone insists they recognize me but I know they don’t?”

#1165: “(I think) my only friend won’t hang out with me because of a dead guy.”

Hi Captain, I (she/her) am 39 years old and haven’t had a real friend since I was 23. Due to numerous instances of abandonment and rejection before and since, I’ve developed a form of Social Anxiety where I panic whenever I think someone important to me might, well, abandon or reject me. I’m working on … Continue reading #1165: “(I think) my only friend won’t hang out with me because of a dead guy.”