Hello, it's the monthly feature where patrons of the site can ask short questions. Q1: Thanks to years of reading your blog I finally learned how to call out -isms when they happen! But now I'm stuck at the next hurdle, where people who get called out are so mortified they go into an over-the-top … Continue reading Short Questions for August 2019: Part 1 of 2
Tag: bigotry
#1189: “Fox News, Immigrant Family, and the F******* Wedding Invite List”
Dear Captain Awkward, I've met somebody lovely and we're getting married in the summer. (My pronouns: she/her, my fiancee's: they/them) I'm thrilled to celebrate with all my family and friends...except one person. My uncle has mainlined Fox News for longer than I've been alive and has selected me, his queer, liberal niece, as a prime … Continue reading #1189: “Fox News, Immigrant Family, and the F******* Wedding Invite List”
#1125: “I’m stressed and embarrassed whenever I have to go places with my bigoted parents.”
Behind a cut for the casual fatphobia, racism, and misogyny of entitled white folks of a certain age. Update: People are sharing some of the specific slurs and types of comments their bigoted relatives say and asking how to challenge those things esp. in the comments, so I would counsel POC and other marginalized folks … Continue reading #1125: “I’m stressed and embarrassed whenever I have to go places with my bigoted parents.”
#917: “How to set boundaries with people who think boundaries and hurt are manipulative? AKA Help implementing boundary advice?”
Hello, Cap and friends! I have a couple of questions about boundary-setting with people who don't believe in boundaries. The Awkward team's advice and scripts on setting boundaries have been so wonderfully helpful in my life, but what (if anything) can you say to people who believe that setting boundaries in a family is controlling? … Continue reading #917: “How to set boundaries with people who think boundaries and hurt are manipulative? AKA Help implementing boundary advice?”
Link: The Southern Poverty Law Center/Responding To Everyday Bigotry
This excellent guide is full of gentle, direct scripts pulled from real situations. Speak Up: Responding To Everyday Bigotry
#871: Love & Friendship in the Time of Xenophobia
Dear Captain, I'm hooked on your advice as well as comments from the Awkward Army. Now, I need your help. Let me set the scene. I've lived in Dubai, New York, Hong Kong and a lot of other cool places. I love anime (inner geek), talking shit with my friends (very cool, very diverse), and … Continue reading #871: Love & Friendship in the Time of Xenophobia
