There's a lot to be said sometimes for faking it until you make it, but I'm a big fan of dropping the act and dropping the shame right along with it.
#1268: “I tanked a job interview at a place I really want to go back to someday. How do I get over the shame?”
Hi Captain! I hope today is treating you gently. 🙂 Last year, I (twentysomething, they/them) moved across the country to be with my partner. The relationship is good and healthy! The town is friendly, walkable-ish, mild weather, etc. When I visited, I could see myself living here – and more importantly, working at this one … Continue reading #1268: “I tanked a job interview at a place I really want to go back to someday. How do I get over the shame?”
September 2019 Short Questions: Part 1
Patrons of the blog have sent in short questions. Surprising nobody, I have written answers between "medium" and "epic." This is Part 1 of 2, the rest will come later in the week. In this batch: A friend is ghosting me to my face at work, I want to reconnect with a friend I accidentally … Continue reading September 2019 Short Questions: Part 1
#1216 and #1217: The Weight Of Parental Love and Things And Time And “Help.”
Dear Captain Awkward; Hello! I am 48 years old, pronouns she/her, and having trouble with my parents, specifically, my mother and her hoarding. My mom is trying to give more stuff to me than I can handle, and the lever she pulls to make it more painful is, "but it was your grandmother's." if I … Continue reading #1216 and #1217: The Weight Of Parental Love and Things And Time And “Help.”
#855: Overcoming Imposter Syndrome And Accessing Mental Health Support
Dear Cap, I recently graduated as a Physical Therapist Assistant (PTA). The entire time I was in school I always felt that I didn't deserve the grades I got, that I wasn't trying hard enough, and didn't know enough. But I kept passing with some As but mostly Bs (a failing grade in this program … Continue reading #855: Overcoming Imposter Syndrome And Accessing Mental Health Support
#775: “Mom, stop leaving your anxiety-mouse on my doormat.”
Dear Captain Awkward, My mom has always been something of a worrier. Anxiety runs in our family. But recently, there’s been this special, specific little anxiety bundle my mom’s been trying to hand me and my brother recently, like a cat leaving a mouse on a doorstep. I don’t know what to do with it! … Continue reading #775: “Mom, stop leaving your anxiety-mouse on my doormat.”
#745: Are plans really important?
Dear Captain Awkward, So... Not sure if this fits under relationship advice or under the "how to be a regular human being and not a lizard person" category. I've been seeing this guy for the last 10 months. He is great, but I'm the first person he's actually gone out with since ending a long, … Continue reading #745: Are plans really important?
#689: Did I overreact when my date told me a story about rape and then wanted to get me alone?
Dear Captain Awkward, I’m newly single, and getting back into dating. I went on a date last night with a guy I met on OKC. We met up at a bar, and he seemed cute and smart, and as we talked it seemed like we had lots in common! But about twenty minutes in, it … Continue reading #689: Did I overreact when my date told me a story about rape and then wanted to get me alone?
#524: How do I fight with my partner without ruining everything?
Dear Captain Awkward (And Awkwardeers), I've been in a fantastic relationship with my partner for a few years now. He's incredibly supportive of my mental health, and complements my personality perfectly. However, and this may seem a silly concern, I'm worried about the fact that we never argue. Basically, I'm concerned that this might mean … Continue reading #524: How do I fight with my partner without ruining everything?
#508 & #509: Friendship, Attachment Styles & Boundaries
This is the last day of the Summer Pledge Drive, where I post the links for making a (non-tax deductible) gift through PayPal or via Dwolla. Your generosity so far has been amazing and I am so humbled and pleased with the outpouring of support. A new computer will be within reach when this one goes. I … Continue reading #508 & #509: Friendship, Attachment Styles & Boundaries