Hi Captain! I hope today is treating you gently. 🙂 Last year, I (twentysomething, they/them) moved across the country to be with my partner. The relationship is good and healthy! The town is friendly, walkable-ish, mild weather, etc. When I visited, I could see myself living here – and more importantly, working at this one … Continue reading #1268: “I tanked a job interview at a place I really want to go back to someday. How do I get over the shame?”
Patrons of the blog have sent in short questions. Surprising nobody, I have written answers between "medium" and "epic." This is Part 1 of 2, the rest will come later in the week. In this batch: A friend is ghosting me to my face at work, I want to reconnect with a friend I accidentally … Continue reading September 2019 Short Questions: Part 1
Dear Captain Awkward; Hello! I am 48 years old, pronouns she/her, and having trouble with my parents, specifically, my mother and her hoarding. My mom is trying to give more stuff to me than I can handle, and the lever she pulls to make it more painful is, "but it was your grandmother's." if I … Continue reading #1216 and #1217: The Weight Of Parental Love and Things And Time And “Help.”
Dear Cap, I recently graduated as a Physical Therapist Assistant (PTA). The entire time I was in school I always felt that I didn't deserve the grades I got, that I wasn't trying hard enough, and didn't know enough. But I kept passing with some As but mostly Bs (a failing grade in this program … Continue reading #855: Overcoming Imposter Syndrome And Accessing Mental Health Support
Dear Captain Awkward, My mom has always been something of a worrier. Anxiety runs in our family. But recently, there’s been this special, specific little anxiety bundle my mom’s been trying to hand me and my brother recently, like a cat leaving a mouse on a doorstep. I don’t know what to do with it! … Continue reading #775: “Mom, stop leaving your anxiety-mouse on my doormat.”
Dear Captain Awkward, So... Not sure if this fits under relationship advice or under the "how to be a regular human being and not a lizard person" category. I've been seeing this guy for the last 10 months. He is great, but I'm the first person he's actually gone out with since ending a long, … Continue reading #745: Are plans really important?
Dear Captain Awkward, I’m newly single, and getting back into dating. I went on a date last night with a guy I met on OKC. We met up at a bar, and he seemed cute and smart, and as we talked it seemed like we had lots in common! But about twenty minutes in, it … Continue reading #689: Did I overreact when my date told me a story about rape and then wanted to get me alone?
Dear Captain Awkward (And Awkwardeers), I've been in a fantastic relationship with my partner for a few years now. He's incredibly supportive of my mental health, and complements my personality perfectly. However, and this may seem a silly concern, I'm worried about the fact that we never argue. Basically, I'm concerned that this might mean … Continue reading #524: How do I fight with my partner without ruining everything?
This is the last day of the Summer Pledge Drive, where I post the links for making a (non-tax deductible) gift through PayPal or via Dwolla. Your generosity so far has been amazing and I am so humbled and pleased with the outpouring of support. A new computer will be within reach when this one goes. I … Continue reading #508 & #509: Friendship, Attachment Styles & Boundaries
Dear Captain, I’m in a very happy long term relationship. The biggest problem we face is we’re both introverts, and have some social anxiety along with it. It’s hard to make friends, but we’re trying. We’re very geeky, so we’re trying to get involved in geek spaces. Next comes the big hurdle, we have diet … Continue reading #479: Trying to be more social when you have serious dietary restrictions