As a Letter Writer to the blog, you are never obligated to update us. Use the advice that's useful to you, ignore what isn't useful, and go live your (hopefully) happy life where you are hopefully able to use your own bathroom whenever you want to. (This letter haunts me to this day and I … Continue reading Open Thread: Updates
Dear Captain Awkward, I am so scared. I keep messing things up financially. I just don't know how to do it. How to DO MONEY. But it's a paradox, because I am earning a decent amount. It's a paradox about which I feel rather ashamed, because I am aware of my privilege. I come from … Continue reading Guest Post: #909 “I Should Be Able To Do Money…But I Can’t”
Hello! Let's ease back into things with some short answers to some questions that people didn't ask so much as typed into their friendly neighborhood search engines. 1. "My foot feels like it is slipping but it isn't." Whoa, that is a terrible recurring dream I have, and I hope you solve this mystery for … Continue reading It Came From The Search Terms: Busting out all over!
Hi Captain! This isn't anything serious but I thought you would have some great advice or direction. My ex and I are seeing each other again. We dated for 4 years, 2 of which were living together. We were in our early twenties and the living together was much less a mutual choice and more … Continue reading #693: When should I trust relationship advice and when should I trust my gut?
Now and then it's interesting to see the search terms that bring people here, and, since they are in the form of a question, give some short answers. I've added punctuation but otherwise left the texts unaltered. "Pushing someone to accept something they aren't ready to." Is doomed. You can maybe get someone to say … Continue reading It Came From the Search Terms
[Content note: purity culture] Dear Captain Awkward, I am married. My husband is a very lovely, supportive man, very devoted and considerate, and a great father to our small child. We've been together nearly a decade, and married for most of that time. We are a good partnership. He was the first person I ever … Continue reading Guest Post #496: I No Longer Have Pantsfeelings for the Only Partner I’ve Had
Dear Captain and co. This is a not-quite problem that’s separated into two parts. I’m not interested in sex or dating/relationships. I’m not comfortable at the moment categorising myself as asexual/aromantic, although maybe at some point in the future if I find it’s convenient. Essentially I’m happy with the ‘’it happens if it happens’’ mentality, … Continue reading #492: I am so not into the whole dating thing. How do I talk about that with people who are?
Jolly's great comment to Monday's post is going to be very relevant to these seemingly very different questions: "You also don’t necessarily have to bring some of these things up in one big confrontation about The Whole Pattern Of Her Sucking. You could just make a point of standing up for yourself when she does … Continue reading #468 and #469: “Hey, knock it off”, or, Constructive Conflict, Continued.
I'll be quick- After getting my teaching degree abroad, I've moved back home with my folks because I have no money, and there are no teaching jobs (or really ANY jobs) in my area at the moment. I'm also transgender. I came out to my dad about a year ago while we were travelling together, … Continue reading #453: Guest Post: How Do I Come Out to My Mom?
Dear Capt. Awkward, So, I'm a 25 year old lady. Like a lot of your readers (I think?) I've never really had a lot of dating success, and definitely have never had a boyfriend. This sometimes makes me feel a little sad, but I've never really gone out there in pursuit of a boyfriend, and … Continue reading #242: Can I Tell Guys I Don’t Want to Date Them Before They Ask Me to Date Them?