#1282: “I want to support my friend without helping him with all his class assignments.”

Hi Captain, I am trying to figure out how to still be supportive of my friend continuing on to grad school when I recently had to dropout of my own program due to a lot of different reasons (COVID striking my family, online course-work not being a good avenue for me, extra course-work due to … Continue reading #1282: “I want to support my friend without helping him with all his class assignments.”

#1167: “Tips for staying positive when your body hates you.”

Dear Captain Awkward, Thanks so much for this blog! I read most of the archives during a recent overnight hospital stay and it really helped keep me entertained. I (she/her pronouns are fine) was a year away from completing my dissertation when my body rebelled. I have two very large liver adenomas, larger than the … Continue reading #1167: “Tips for staying positive when your body hates you.”

#1027: How do I handle a hands-off advisor who expects me to be a mind-reader?

Dear Captain, I am a 4th year PhD student in a STEM subject and I feel that everything has gone off the rails, in part because my adviser and I don't communicate well. I will try to be brief- there is a lot to unpack. I started my PhD at 23 without a Masters, so … Continue reading #1027: How do I handle a hands-off advisor who expects me to be a mind-reader?

#870: “I was ghosted by my faculty advisor. How should we interact now?”

Hi Captain! Okay, here's the tale: I'm two years out of undergrad and was applying to grad schools this past winter, so emailed my senior thesis adviser to ask for a letter of recommendation (he'd already written me one for a fellowship a year ago). He never responded--after a month I checked that he wasn't … Continue reading #870: “I was ghosted by my faculty advisor. How should we interact now?”

#787: Trouble dealing with male grad students who take up all the air

Dear Captain Awkward, I am a woman who is a graduate student. One of my fellow students, a man who I'll call Nigel, takes up a lot of space in seminar. He speaks over people, interrupts, makes noises while other people speak, and doesn't wait his turn. If unchecked, he will dominate seminar and prevent … Continue reading #787: Trouble dealing with male grad students who take up all the air

#592: Am I sabotaging my academic career by dating a guy with no degree; or, how is Academia like Reality TV?

Hi Captain (& friends), I have been dating an awesome guy for a little over a year now. It's not really my style to gush over a romantic partner, but this is possibly the happiest and most comfortable I've ever been with someone. However, we have one big difference: I'm a graduate student getting my … Continue reading #592: Am I sabotaging my academic career by dating a guy with no degree; or, how is Academia like Reality TV?

#459: Do I have to destroy my health to be in grad school?

I'm in grad school for creative writing. It's hard. Right now, I'm taking three classes, which means that I'm reading 500-plus pages a week, in addition to commenting on my classmates' writing and producing a poem every week. Plus, I'm teaching a basic composition course for struggling writers, and a literature course (for the first … Continue reading #459: Do I have to destroy my health to be in grad school?

#338: Keeping in touch with professors after graduation.

Hello! I have an academia related question for you. I graduated from a small liberal arts college in May 2011. I enjoyed my time there immensely. I was able to form some awesome relationships with my professors and some administrators (most of whom were my bosses for part-time jobs or internship supervisors). I moved to … Continue reading #338: Keeping in touch with professors after graduation.