Hi Captain, I am trying to figure out how to still be supportive of my friend continuing on to grad school when I recently had to dropout of my own program due to a lot of different reasons (COVID striking my family, online course-work not being a good avenue for me, extra course-work due to … Continue reading #1282: “I want to support my friend without helping him with all his class assignments.”
Dear Captain Awkward, Thanks so much for this blog! I read most of the archives during a recent overnight hospital stay and it really helped keep me entertained. I (she/her pronouns are fine) was a year away from completing my dissertation when my body rebelled. I have two very large liver adenomas, larger than the … Continue reading #1167: “Tips for staying positive when your body hates you.”
Ahoy cap! I am a university student who's in the middle of those last weeks before the period ends that can be described as 'hell on racehorse steroids' and I'm failing one of my subjects. I feel super s***ty about, to the point that I haven't seen my last evaluations (only the grade) but I … Continue reading #1093: “Urgent: I’m scared to ask my professor for help!”
Dear Captain, I am a 4th year PhD student in a STEM subject and I feel that everything has gone off the rails, in part because my adviser and I don't communicate well. I will try to be brief- there is a lot to unpack. I started my PhD at 23 without a Masters, so … Continue reading #1027: How do I handle a hands-off advisor who expects me to be a mind-reader?
Dear Captain, My question today is about academia and/or job opportunities and being single. I am a PhD candidate in a Very Good University in the US, and I will be on the academic job market in a year. I have a very good publication/presentation/committee/topic situation, so I should be doing fairly fine. However, my … Continue reading #1023: “Academia, singlehood, + excuses.”
Hi Captain! Okay, here's the tale: I'm two years out of undergrad and was applying to grad schools this past winter, so emailed my senior thesis adviser to ask for a letter of recommendation (he'd already written me one for a fellowship a year ago). He never responded--after a month I checked that he wasn't … Continue reading #870: “I was ghosted by my faculty advisor. How should we interact now?”
Dear Captain Awkward, I am a woman who is a graduate student. One of my fellow students, a man who I'll call Nigel, takes up a lot of space in seminar. He speaks over people, interrupts, makes noises while other people speak, and doesn't wait his turn. If unchecked, he will dominate seminar and prevent … Continue reading #787: Trouble dealing with male grad students who take up all the air
Hi Captain (& friends), I have been dating an awesome guy for a little over a year now. It's not really my style to gush over a romantic partner, but this is possibly the happiest and most comfortable I've ever been with someone. However, we have one big difference: I'm a graduate student getting my … Continue reading #592: Am I sabotaging my academic career by dating a guy with no degree; or, how is Academia like Reality TV?
I'm in grad school for creative writing. It's hard. Right now, I'm taking three classes, which means that I'm reading 500-plus pages a week, in addition to commenting on my classmates' writing and producing a poem every week. Plus, I'm teaching a basic composition course for struggling writers, and a literature course (for the first … Continue reading #459: Do I have to destroy my health to be in grad school?
Hello! I have an academia related question for you. I graduated from a small liberal arts college in May 2011. I enjoyed my time there immensely. I was able to form some awesome relationships with my professors and some administrators (most of whom were my bosses for part-time jobs or internship supervisors). I moved to … Continue reading #338: Keeping in touch with professors after graduation.