Behind a cut for mention of child abuse, sexual abuse, and abuse from a therapist. See also, bullying about weight and fat-shaming. Basically a bingo card of triggering, problematic shit and a very awesome Letter Writer trying to handle it all gracefully. ❤ Dear Captain Awkward, I (31/she) started seeing my partner/boyfriend (33/he) in January … Continue reading #1270: “My mom has always hated my boyfriend. Now she says it’s because he resembles someone who abused her.”
Dear Captain, My husband (he / him / his) is extremely smart and good in his job, has a close relationship with his sister, and good at figuring out mechanical challenges (e.g., setting up a new type of tent) patiently and thoroughly. But I can’t bear the constant criticism. He’s always miffed about something. It … Continue reading #1218: “Irritability and constant criticism in a marriage.”
If it's not obvious why from the subject line, we're putting this post behind a cut so people can choose whether to engage further. FYI there are mentions of past assaults and predatory behavior in addition to describing sex offender registries and designations. Upsetting stuff, though the LW is doing a good job with an impossible … Continue reading #1191: Guest Post:”My Mom’s Boyfriend is a Sex Offender!”
Hi, Captain, My mom and I have had a fraught relationship for most of my life. Her parenting was often verbally and emotionally abusive, she spent much of my adolescence self-medicating with alcohol, and she's both extremely volatile and prone to interpreting criticism as an indictment of her entire being (so, for instance, "Mom, I … Continue reading #785: Difficult Mom Wants To Be Closer
Evil bees and bad friends behind the cut. Hi Awkward Army. I am currently grappling with recently dx'd PTSD because my ex-boyfriend abused me. The breakup was a long time ago and I've blocked him on everything and he hasn't tried to contact me in 10 months, thank God. One or two of our mutual … Continue reading #643: The stinking pile of wordpoop that is “I’m not going to choose a side.”
Here there be dragons. And bees. Dear Captain Awkward, I’m trying my best to sort this out myself, and I am starting therapy in a week or two, but I feel like I’m flailing around, grasping at whatever I can tell myself to make me feel like things aren’t awful. I recently discovered your website … Continue reading #640: “I know he would never physically hurt me” and other fairy tales.
Hello Cap'n, My good friend Alice recently got herself a boyfriend. I have two issues with this: 1) Even though I've never met him (it's a long-distance relationship), and she's never complained about him, I'm pretty sure he's a typical Darth Vader boyfriend -because all of her 'cute' stories are actually really awful, and 2) … Continue reading #565: When your friend gushes about her new boyfriend and all of her “cute” stories are actually horrifying.
Dear Captain Awkward, In a few months, my big sister’s getting married, and I’m a bridesmaid. Awesome! The problem is that my estranged father will be there, and I legit cannot be around him. My parents are divorced and Dad was always weird. When I was 16, he and I had a massive argument where … Continue reading #404: My thief of a dad is going to be at my sister’s wedding.
Behind a cut for discussions of sexual abuse. Hi Captain Awkward, I don't know if you appreciate trigger warnings, since most of what you deal with sounds like it would apply, but this letter is about my dad who molested me. When I was starting puberty, my dad molested me. I told my mom, … Continue reading #386: Facing down a predator.
Dear Captain Awkward, Ever since I can remember my worth in my family has only gone up when my weight goes down. My mom was always telling me I was too fat and that I needed to pull my pants up over my stomach or that I needed to buy larger … Continue reading #345: My mom won’t shut up about my weight