Dear Captain– My husband was diagnosed with lung cancer last spring. At the time, it was considered not the worst possible type of cancer and he had a 70% chance of going into remission. He chose not to tell either of his parents (who have been divorced for 45 years) or anyone else on his … Continue reading #938: “My husband is dying and does not want to tell his parents. Should I intervene?”
Hi excellent captain, Firstly I wanted to say that your blog has been, like, profoundly life-changingly important for me. I have two parents who are both, in their different ways, abusive. My mum has had a difficult past but can’t control her outbursts of destructive rage, and my dad is the more cool, calm, evil … Continue reading #914: “I broke ties with my abusive parents as an adult. Now what?”
Hi Captain Awkward, To make a long story short, I was recently diagnosed with a genetic condition that explains why I’ve had full back pain for the past five years. In those five years between symptom onset and a diagnosis the pain has just gotten worse. I’m only 19 and going to university but I … Continue reading #890: “I have chronic pain and need to quit my job. How do I tell a) my boss and b) my skeptical parents?”
Dear Captain Awkward, A couple of weeks ago, I tried one of your scripts on my parents to ask them to stay in a hotel when they visit. My wife and I have a two-month old baby. Any house guests are disruptive, especially with a newborn in the house. But my parents are the most … Continue reading #773: Grandparents, visits, and boundaries
Hi Captain I was wondering if you had suggestions on how to convince parents to let their grown up kid move out. I’m planning to get an interstate job and move out in two years (I’ll be around 22) but feel the need to lay ground work early. My parents have never: 1) let me … Continue reading #762: Helicopter parents and moving out.
Dear Captain, My parents keep visiting me over the summer and living in my apartment on my couch. One of my parents is looking for a job both in my current state and in the state of my hometown (where she actually officially lives when she is not visiting me). She sometimes has interviews out … Continue reading #741: Visiting parents and a short “Boundary Practice” course.
Hi Awkward team, Last fall, I decided to get an undercut — long hair with a side shave — and I love it! It looks super cute on me and it feels really good to be able to signal my queerness in an additional way. When I went home for Christmas, my mother was aghast. … Continue reading #688: Parents, appearance, and opinions.
Captain Awkward, I want my parents to get divorced. There’s been a lot of unexpected changes from their marriage to today, but everything always seemed okay, at least topically. But a big reason my mother married my father specifically was because he was a Christian. Recently, his views have changed, and he is an atheist. … Continue reading #636: I want my parents to get divorced.
Dear Captain, I need scripts, and I need them ASAP. I have 24 years of reasons (emotional abuse and toxic family environment) to hide why I am on antidepressants from my parents, and I have been doing so successfully for a year, paying for them out of pocket, because I am on a medication where … Continue reading #606: How do I come out to my abusive parents about being on antidepressants?
Ahoy Captain & Company! I have a question that is not 100% relevant yet, but may be in the next few weeks. My husband “A” and I are planning on starting a family. Although we are young (by the time any baby is born, I will be 23 and A will be 25), we have … Continue reading #578: How do I tell my parents that my spouse and I are thinking of starting a family? Spoiler: Don’t just yet.