#1015: Touching, boundaries, and compatibility

Hi, and thanks for an awesome and helpful site! My situation: I’ve recently begun a new relationship, and am experiencing some…friction. I’m having trouble telling how much of the issue is incompatibility, and how much is me being “rusty”/ungenerous/inflexible, and I would love some outside insight! A bit about me: I’ve never been a big … Continue reading #1015: Touching, boundaries, and compatibility

#966: “Boundaries, Love, Death, Denial, Manners, & Kink” or “1 Husband, 1 Lover, 1 Burned-Out Caregiver & The Next Five Years”

Hi Captain! All names have been changed to protect the guilty. Sorry this is long, but the backstory is rather necessary. I’m a 45 year old pansexual poly woman. I’ve been with Wolfie since I was 18, married him at 23, and had two sons with him, who are now both out of the house. … Continue reading #966: “Boundaries, Love, Death, Denial, Manners, & Kink” or “1 Husband, 1 Lover, 1 Burned-Out Caregiver & The Next Five Years”

#917: “How to set boundaries with people who think boundaries and hurt are manipulative? AKA Help implementing boundary advice?”

Hello, Cap and friends! I have a couple of questions about boundary-setting with people who don’t believe in boundaries. The Awkward team’s advice and scripts on setting boundaries have been so wonderfully helpful in my life, but what (if anything) can you say to people who believe that setting boundaries in a family is controlling? … Continue reading #917: “How to set boundaries with people who think boundaries and hurt are manipulative? AKA Help implementing boundary advice?”

#856: “Let’s totally do that thing together….sometime.” (Time, Planning, & Boundaries)

Greetings, Captain! Long-time lurker checking in with a relationship problem. My boyfriend and I (she/her pronouns) have a lot of different interests. Which is fine! Not all my stuff is his cup of coffee! Not all his stuff is my cup of tea! The issue is when he says he wants to do something with … Continue reading #856: “Let’s totally do that thing together….sometime.” (Time, Planning, & Boundaries)

#833: When your spouse won’t set boundaries with your in-laws.

Dear Captain, I am married to a wonderful, funny, smart man. We have an amazing two-year-old and I just found out that I am expecting again. Life is good, except that his normally-long-distance family is suddenly in the area (an hour’s drive away) and thus all the issues about my dislike of them that we … Continue reading #833: When your spouse won’t set boundaries with your in-laws.

#508 & #509: Friendship, Attachment Styles & Boundaries

This is the last day of the Summer Pledge Drive, where I post the links for making a (non-tax deductible) gift  through PayPal or  via Dwolla.  Your generosity so far has been amazing and I am so humbled and pleased with the outpouring of support. A new computer will be within reach when this one goes. I … Continue reading #508 & #509: Friendship, Attachment Styles & Boundaries