People who won't take 'no' for an answer often present the risk as you being seen as mean or selfish when you don't do what they want, when really, it's that if you don't say 'no' you have to put up with them in your personal space. Re-balance your risk assessments, friend!
When someone says "I don't have romantic feelings for you," take them at their word.
"Dear Captain Awkward, how can I find out if my crush likes me back?"
Nature is healing!
Sometimes when you stop trying to make yourself like someone, it's easier to keep the peace at parties.
Two spouses wrote to me and I don't want to post the letters full of painful details but I also could not leave it alone.
"I hated living with them so I moved the hell out. What is there to 'mediate?'"
"This bugs me" doesn't equal "This is wrong," and this Letter Writer gets that. 🙂
What to do when everyone you know is getting vaccinated, except for you? What about when you're the relatively fortunate person? Also, what about relatives who refuse to be immunized? Here are some thoughts about that.
"Don't touch me" isn't complicated. You know who makes it complicated? CREEPS, THAT'S WHO.
There's a lot to be said sometimes for faking it until you make it, but I'm a big fan of dropping the act and dropping the shame right along with it.