Both anxious and avoidant attachment styles respond badly to pressure and benefit from structure, or, "Mom, I can't be your on-call therapist."
#1374: “Help, a tutor keeps asking me for personal details.”
"Tell me your phone number and exactly where you live so I can judge if you are a SERIOUS STUDENT." Yikes.
May 15: Asking Bear Live! (Virtual Event)
Come see S. Bear Bergman and me answer advice questions in real time. May 15, 8 pm Eastern, 7pm Central, live from the Internet. Ticket links and more info in post.
London meetup outdoors – May
Hello everyone! So now the weather is a bit better I'm moving the meetups back to outdoors, as that allows as many of us as possible to attend safely. So, here we go: 7th May, 1pm, Hyde Park. Please bring your own: Picnic blanket or similarAny folding chairs etc. you may want to useFood and … Continue reading London meetup outdoors – May
#1373: “Help me with this awkward stage fright.”
How to get over stage fright and interpersonal awkwardness.
#1372: “Help me plant the right boundaries for the future.”
There are a lot of steps between "starting a farm" and "figuring out who gets it after we die." Content Warning for ableism.
April London meetup
Hello everyone! Everyone who’s coming please make sure you take a lateral flow test (or PCR) the previous evening or that morning if at all possible Obviously I will cancel if the situation changes or the rules change 9th April, 1pm, Royal Festival Hall, Southbank Centre, SE1 8XX. We will be on Level 2 (the … Continue reading April London meetup
#1371: “I’m a cuckoo morning lark in a parliament of night owls.”
It is okay to enjoy slightly different vacationing rules than other people.
#1370: “I feel suffocated and want to move away from my stingy roommate.”
Nobody loves separating the books and dishtowels, but when it's time, it's time.
#1369: “Is there a polite way to tell my mother-in-law that she will, someday, die?”
Death comes for us all, but we don't have to like it.