Captain, my Captain! I've looked through the archives, and while you've answered similar-ish questions, this one hasn't come up before, so I'm hoping you can help! I (she/her) work as a freelance editor and am in a fairly privileged position––I have enough clients that I can afford to be somewhat choosy; I'm white and cisgender, … Continue reading #1195: How to give a client feedback when the feedback is “You’re racist.”
" I don’t think you’re a stalker. I think you need to learn better boundaries to conserve your energy and time."
Hey Cap, My mother in law has been out of work for some time and really needs a job, she’s applied to a lot of places and not gotten any calls. She has very specific work experience, work in this field has dried up significantly and is sporadic at best, she still has a mortgage … Continue reading #1179: “My mother-in-law is about to become my coworker.”
Hello Captain, Two years ago, a friend paid me to critique her novel because I studied writing and know the publishing industry. I agreed to read three drafts of the work. We did not sign a formal contract. Then I got the manuscript, and it’s terrible on all levels, from prose to plot. I’ve tried … Continue reading #1178: “A friend paid me to read her book and it’s terrible.”
Hello Captain, I've got a few older women in my life who keep talking to me like I'm one of their kids. It's either unsolicited advice or outright orders in a snotty tone. One of these women volunteers at the same place I do. She orders people around constantly, is generally rude and condescending, and … Continue reading #1176: The limits of respecting one’s elders just ’cause they are elders.
Hello everyone! I've tweaked the format for short answer question submission (explainer for how it works is here) for these posts to keep the number & scope of responses manageable and to better guard privacy. Here's this week's batch of answers. Thanks to all who submitted and helped me try out the new system, I … Continue reading Long Answers to Short Questions Tuesday!
Good morning Captain, I have a really nice problem that I could use help with, which is: how do I send professional compliments? I work in a healthcare-adjacent field, which is a pretty tough and thankless job 99% of the time. Because absolutely no one is here for the money, I frequently encounter workers, from … Continue reading #1171: The nicest problem to have: Sending an organization positive feedback about their employees.
This letter came in last week, and a lovely blog reader who will now be known as "The Girl Sparky" helpfully volunteered to tackle the "sudden unemployment" part of the question. Her answer is below the letter/the fold. Here is my (Jennifer, Captain Awkward's) one additional suggestion to her beautiful post, dear Fed Up Fed: … Continue reading Guest Post: #1170: Battling Furlough Depression (Advice for keeping it together when you unwillingly have too much free time on your hands)
Hi Captain, I (she/her) am 39 years old and haven’t had a real friend since I was 23. Due to numerous instances of abandonment and rejection before and since, I’ve developed a form of Social Anxiety where I panic whenever I think someone important to me might, well, abandon or reject me. I’m working on … Continue reading #1165: “(I think) my only friend won’t hang out with me because of a dead guy.”
Dear Awkward, I work at a nonprofit and am the only staff member who manages our +1,200 volunteers. My ex-husband worked with a therapist for years prior to our divorce. The ex was violent, cheated on me, and was verbally abusive. At one point when things were really messy his therapist sought me out at … Continue reading #1164: “My ex’s therapist wants to volunteer where I work!”