Evidence of life after escaping an abusive and toxic environment.
#1391: “Anxious Coworker Is Triggering My Mothering Instinct”
When work says, "We're like a family here," they never mean a happy, functional family.
#1389: “I am taking over a course from a professor who died. How should I proceed?”
"Hello, I wouldn't be here if your actual professor hadn't died. Who's ready to LEARN?"
#1363: “Am I overreacting to being constantly interrupted at work?”
To avoid the trap of trying to satisfy a group member who can never be satisfied, think about what you owe everybody else.
#1358: GUEST POST: “I think my professors $#@%-ed me up.”
Thriller author Amy Gentry answers this letter about abusive professors who feed like vampires on the potential of their students.
Crossover: Ask A(n Awkward) Manager
Sometimes Alison at Ask A Manager and I like to answer questions about workplace awkwardness together.
It Came From The Search Terms: January 2021
It is that time when I pretend that the search strings people typed in are actual questions. Details? What details. Mitigating circumstances? Ha! It's all assumptions, all the time!
It Came From The Search Terms: October Symphony (Oct. 2020)
Greetings, it is the time for the periodic tradition where I answer search strings people typed in as if they are questions. First, I want to share a few links - Here I am at Vice, writing about family arguments, and I also want to call attention to S. Bear Bergman's recent post there: How … Continue reading It Came From The Search Terms: October Symphony (Oct. 2020)
#1294: “I work with an Angry Yelling Man and it’s triggering my PTSD.”
Alert, alert, Mantrum in progress! Do not approach! Mantrum in progress!
#1290: “My husband says ‘my pushiness’ ruined his life.”
Hi Captain, Six months ago my husband got a new job. It was a top management position that I thought he really wanted. The application process was very involved and I gave him a lot of help with it. I thought I was being loving and supportive, and that we were working as a … Continue reading #1290: “My husband says ‘my pushiness’ ruined his life.”