Dear Captain Awkward, I'm reaching out because, while this is a relatively specific scenario, I'm sure a lot of people feel this way at one time or another. My partner's old friend group never really warmed to me when I first moved here, and I let that be okay because I knew his ex was … Continue reading #1161: “Being the New Kid in my partner’s friend group, four years in, with a jillion weddings and other events on the horizon.”
Sorry about the premature postulation of the draft version yesterday. Dear Captain Awkward, I’ve just said yes to marry my Mr Right. Our friendship is the most important part of our relationship, so although there are some imbalances in the emotional workload, these are usually corrected after a stern talking-to – which can be delivered … Continue reading #1139: “Mom, you’ve had two weddings, let me have one!”
Behind a cut for parental bigotry & abuse. Hi Captain, I’m wondering if you have any scripts for explaining why your family won’t be at your wedding. I am no contact with my parents. My mom’s combination of untreated, unacknowledged mental illness and homophobia created a very toxic, very abusive childhood. My dad enabled/noped out … Continue reading #1114: “Talking about child abuse during wedding planning.”
Dear Captain Awkward, Thank you so much for taking the time to read my question! Here's the situation: I got married nearly two years ago. For our wedding, we tried to keep things very simple and planned for two toasts, one from each side. I asked my best friend to give the toast on my … Continue reading #1112: “I’m still upset about my brother’s wedding toast.”
Behind a cut for Nazis and the extremely triggering Nazi stuff they say and do. Hi, Captain! I'm a girl in her mid-twenties. Recently I've been pre-dating a guy (hanging out with him and his friends, flirting a little) but nothing official. I'm South Asian and very visibly POC. One of his friends approached me … Continue reading #1083 and #1084: Nazis Are Beyond Awkward, Do Not Engage.
Hi Captain, I'm dealing with something that is new to me and I'm kind of seeking someone who can tell me whether or not my expectations are way out of line, or if I need to compromise them; my concern is that it's a problem where any compromise I can think of leaves everyone miserable. … Continue reading #1073: “Promises and symbols and weddings, oh my!”
Dear Captain Awkward, My wedding is in a month. There is new parental drama that makes me wish we were eloping. How do I still enjoy my wedding? Fiancée and I are introverts and did not want a huge wedding. My parents do not understand why we would not want 300 guests (despite numerous attempts … Continue reading #1003: “Getting married in 30 days and the parent drama is making me wish we’d eloped.”
Dear Captain, I am transgender (he/him pronouns), and came out to my immediate family last year. I have not come out to my extended family because - well, I don't consider it their business! In my mind it would be like telling loosely connected acquaintances. The issue is this: my younger brother is getting married … Continue reading #987: “Coming out as trans to family at (or before) a family wedding.”
Captain, My partner (he/him pronouns) and I (she/her) have been together for 7 years and are getting married this summer. Our wedding will be a week away in a different state than we live, and we are so excited to spend the time with our family and friends. My partner's sister is an alcoholic and … Continue reading #949: “Wedding dis-invitation.”
Ahoy Captain! I am a lesbian in her mid-twenties who grew up in a very religious (and homophobic) environment. In my last year of college, I began dating one of my best friends who lived in another state, and slowly began to come out to my social circle, which at that time was largely composed … Continue reading #941: How do I tell my parents I’m a) gay and b) married?