#1161: “Being the New Kid in my partner’s friend group, four years in, with a jillion weddings and other events on the horizon.”

Dear Captain Awkward, I'm reaching out because, while this is a relatively specific scenario, I'm sure a lot of people feel this way at one time or another. My partner's old friend group never really warmed to me when I first moved here, and I let that be okay because I knew his ex was … Continue reading #1161: “Being the New Kid in my partner’s friend group, four years in, with a jillion weddings and other events on the horizon.”

#1139: “Mom, you’ve had two weddings, let me have one!”

Sorry about the premature postulation of the draft version yesterday. Dear Captain Awkward, I’ve just said yes to marry my Mr Right. Our friendship is the most important part of our relationship, so although there are some imbalances in the emotional workload, these are usually corrected after a stern talking-to – which can be delivered … Continue reading #1139: “Mom, you’ve had two weddings, let me have one!”

#1114: “Talking about child abuse during wedding planning.”

Behind a cut for parental bigotry & abuse. Hi Captain, I’m wondering if you have any scripts for explaining why your family won’t be at your wedding. I am no contact with my parents. My mom’s combination of untreated, unacknowledged mental illness and homophobia created a very toxic, very abusive childhood. My dad enabled/noped out … Continue reading #1114: “Talking about child abuse during wedding planning.”

#1003: “Getting married in 30 days and the parent drama is making me wish we’d eloped.”

Dear Captain Awkward, My wedding is in a month.  There is new parental drama that makes me wish we were eloping.  How do I still enjoy my wedding? Fiancée and I are introverts and did not want a huge wedding.  My parents do not understand why we would not want 300 guests (despite numerous attempts … Continue reading #1003: “Getting married in 30 days and the parent drama is making me wish we’d eloped.”

#987: “Coming out as trans to family at (or before) a family wedding.”

Dear Captain, I am transgender (he/him pronouns), and came out to my immediate family last year. I have not come out to my extended family because - well, I don't consider it their business! In my mind it would be like telling loosely connected acquaintances. The issue is this: my younger brother is getting married … Continue reading #987: “Coming out as trans to family at (or before) a family wedding.”