Hey Captain, I (she/her) am getting married in May! Besides all the awful that is wedding planning, my fiancé (he/him) and I are excited and happy to celebrate this milestone. His parents had a short, violent relationship that resulted in their divorce and going no-contact with each other when my fiancé was a child. I, … Continue reading #1249: Parents who are no contact (with each other) at our wedding.
Thank you all for the kind words and end-of-year donations and patronage that have flowed in over the last week or so. I've been traveling and kind of made a point about not touching my laptop for a week or so, but I read everything and I'm very grateful. ❤ Everyone's doing decade-retrospectives and my … Continue reading 2019’s Most-Viewed Posts
Dear Captain Awkward, My fiancé and I (male and female, respectively; late 20s) are getting married next year. We are both so happy and in love and so excited to be taking this next step in our relationship. Our issue is that we want to alter some elements of our wedding and are facing judgement … Continue reading #1223: Feminist Wedding Etiquette Help
Hi Captain! I'm 24 years old, and next year I'm undergoing the "consecration of virgins" ceremony from Catholic tradition, where essentially I agree to give up romantic attatchments and "marry" myself to God, like halfway to being a nun. I'm very excited about this, and have already started plans for the ceremony, including dresses and … Continue reading #1203: “I’m getting married to God. How do I tell my family they’re not invited?”
:Captain Awkward Opens Mailbox: :Captain Awkward Stares At Mailbox: CONGRATULATIONS, ALL YOU BEAUTIFUL PEOPLE GETTING MARRIED SOON. Let's talk about some stuff I know about weddings. This is probably my one wedding-related post for at least the remainder of 2019. I'm going to try to hit all the bases I know how to help with. … Continue reading IT’S MOTHEREFFING WEDDING SEASON AGAIN, SO LET’S CHAT
Dear Captain Awkward, I've met somebody lovely and we're getting married in the summer. (My pronouns: she/her, my fiancee's: they/them) I'm thrilled to celebrate with all my family and friends...except one person. My uncle has mainlined Fox News for longer than I've been alive and has selected me, his queer, liberal niece, as a prime … Continue reading #1189: “Fox News, Immigrant Family, and the F******* Wedding Invite List”
Dear Captain Awkward, After almost a year of planning, we're in the home stretch before my wedding day in early May. Everything was lining up smoothly until I reached out for RSVPs that hadn't been received yet, namely my stepdad, my aunt, and my grandmother (my dead mom's sister and mother). These are my only … Continue reading #1188: Grief and the empty chairs at the wedding feast.
Dear Captain Awkward, I'm reaching out because, while this is a relatively specific scenario, I'm sure a lot of people feel this way at one time or another. My partner's old friend group never really warmed to me when I first moved here, and I let that be okay because I knew his ex was … Continue reading #1161: “Being the New Kid in my partner’s friend group, four years in, with a jillion weddings and other events on the horizon.”
Sorry about the premature postulation of the draft version yesterday. Dear Captain Awkward, I’ve just said yes to marry my Mr Right. Our friendship is the most important part of our relationship, so although there are some imbalances in the emotional workload, these are usually corrected after a stern talking-to – which can be delivered … Continue reading #1139: “Mom, you’ve had two weddings, let me have one!”
Behind a cut for parental bigotry & abuse. Hi Captain, I’m wondering if you have any scripts for explaining why your family won’t be at your wedding. I am no contact with my parents. My mom’s combination of untreated, unacknowledged mental illness and homophobia created a very toxic, very abusive childhood. My dad enabled/noped out … Continue reading #1114: “Talking about child abuse during wedding planning.”