#1141: “Help with De-Escalating Arguments when Dr. Jekyll Turns into Mr. ‘Abandonment/Control Issues’ Hyde”

Behind a cut for controlling and emotionally abusive behavior. Dear Cap, My husband (he/him) and I (she/her) have been together for five years. I'd say 95% of the time things are great. We're really in tune, we share values and interests and have the same long term goals. The problem is the other 5% (maybe … Continue reading #1141: “Help with De-Escalating Arguments when Dr. Jekyll Turns into Mr. ‘Abandonment/Control Issues’ Hyde”

#1122: “I ghosted a guy three years ago. Now he’s back! What do I owe him?”

Dear Captain, A bit over 3 years ago, I (she/her) went out with a guy (he/him) I met through an online dating site. We had some drinks, slept together, and then I basically ghosted him - ignored a couple of texts, then moved out of the country, changed my number, and never thought about him … Continue reading #1122: “I ghosted a guy three years ago. Now he’s back! What do I owe him?”

#1057: “Hey, so my cousin’s prankster husband threatened to burn my sister’s arm with his lighter at Thanksgiving. How do we get through Christmas together as a family?”

Dear Captain, My sister and I need some help with a potential situation this Christmas. My mother's extended family has Christmas at her house every year on Christmas day and my sister and I usually stay with my parents in the days leading up to Christmas. However, at Thanksgiving we ran into a situation. My … Continue reading #1057: “Hey, so my cousin’s prankster husband threatened to burn my sister’s arm with his lighter at Thanksgiving. How do we get through Christmas together as a family?”

#1056: “I ghosted a scary dude and now I need scripts.”

Dear Captain Awkward, I'm Luke from #728. (The Solo family is fine, no worries.) I got a lot of mileage out of the suggested scripts then and I find myself in need of some completely unrelated scripts now. I am not usually a dating-type of person. I'm not anti-dating. I'm dating agnostic, if you will. … Continue reading #1056: “I ghosted a scary dude and now I need scripts.”

#1041: “How do I get my much older work ‘friend’ to stop messaging me late at night to talk about his relationship problems?”

Dear Captain, I have a colleague, "Peter", who I've known for several years. We first worked together at a festival, and added each other on facebook/phone for organisational reasons, as he was the crew leader. Over time we have become friends, although I do see him as more of a colleague as he is 20 … Continue reading #1041: “How do I get my much older work ‘friend’ to stop messaging me late at night to talk about his relationship problems?”

#989: “Me, my girlfriend, and a giant red flag” or “I’m gay, so why are all these angry men still part of my life?”

This question contains abuse and stalker behaviors. Ahoy! So, my story is a little complicated i guess but ill try and be as concise as possible. For about 2 months now i've been seriously dating a girl i really like and was talking to her everyday for a little while before then. We are officially … Continue reading #989: “Me, my girlfriend, and a giant red flag” or “I’m gay, so why are all these angry men still part of my life?”

#959: “How much fighting in a new relationship is too much?” Spoiler: THIS IS WAY TOO MUCH/OH GOD BREAK UP NOW

Putting this one behind a cut for some sexual coercion. Hi Captain, Long time reader, first time question. I met this girl who seems really great, and I like her a lot-she’s attractive, smart and romantic. But we keep arguing about sex. We were having sex last night and I wanted to stop. Nothing was … Continue reading #959: “How much fighting in a new relationship is too much?” Spoiler: THIS IS WAY TOO MUCH/OH GOD BREAK UP NOW

#954: “I know that ‘a girlfriend is not a pacifier’ but I’m worried that I’m becoming a pacifier for my partner.”

hi captain, i want to thank you so much for your website and lovely community and i hope this message finds you well. i'm having a hard time sorting through some relationship stuff and i'm hoping for some clarity. i'm dating a very sweet and loving man who is still dealing every day with mental … Continue reading #954: “I know that ‘a girlfriend is not a pacifier’ but I’m worried that I’m becoming a pacifier for my partner.”