How many times would you keep trying to hug someone who told you they didn't like it? Zero is the correct answer, so why won't this dude back off?
It's time for the thing where we pretend the search terms people typed into their computers before they landed on this place are actual questions. Context is missing; that's kind of the point. Let's start with a song, as is traditional. Here's Willie, breaking our hearts a little with his cover of "September Song:" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S9nSgMwtkK0 … Continue reading It Came From The Search Terms: September Song
Behind a cut for emotional abuse, misogyny, and discussion of these things as specifically related to recent gun violence and the possibility thereof, which is not what the Letter Writer asked, but definitely something I saw in the question. I did a giant dump of cat photos for patrons if you need to click on … Continue reading #1222: “Love my family, hate my mean red-pilling brother who is always around.”
Hello! Search terms have piled up, let's do the thing where we answer the search strings people typed in that led them here as if they are questions. Context is missing (by design), so expect some comedy answers in between with the sincere stuff. Let's kick things off with a song. Have I used this … Continue reading It Came From The Search Terms: Cruel Summer
People are always full of advice for what a woman should do about a man's rude behavior (like patronizing comments or unfunny mean jokes at her expense that don't land right) and it's almost never saying "Bro? No. No, Bro" and expecting him to change his behavior.
It is time for the return of the feature where we answer things people typed into search engines to find this place as if they are questions. Obviously we are missing details and nuance and the larger story. (That's what makes it fun). First, as traditional: music with the month somewhere in the song. https://youtu.be/jpVgPEWNiRk … Continue reading It Came From The Search Terms: January Song
Behind a cut for the casual fatphobia, racism, and misogyny of entitled white folks of a certain age. Update: People are sharing some of the specific slurs and types of comments their bigoted relatives say and asking how to challenge those things esp. in the comments, so I would counsel POC and other marginalized folks … Continue reading #1125: “I’m stressed and embarrassed whenever I have to go places with my bigoted parents.”
I started answering this latest example privately and then decided, ahhhhhhhh, fuck it. I'm going in. "Dear Jennifer, I was very disappointed when I saw your reaction to the many emails you received concerning NFP. Your reaction was bitchy and immature. I mean, we're all adults, so we'd better behave like adults..." Bitchy, immature, and … Continue reading #969 Moderation Mop-Up, continued, because people are still emailing me their thoughts about how a fellow human being should manage her own body.
Ahoy Captain! I am a lesbian in her mid-twenties who grew up in a very religious (and homophobic) environment. In my last year of college, I began dating one of my best friends who lived in another state, and slowly began to come out to my social circle, which at that time was largely composed … Continue reading #941: How do I tell my parents I’m a) gay and b) married?
Hi Captain - I have a question about keeping yourself sane while trying to get out of a bad situation. I'm trying to leave my job. Everyone I work with is too. I'm at a very small startup, and the main person in charge is both incredibly demanding and extremely volatile, which makes it virtually … Continue reading #934: “How do I keep myself together in order to leave a toxic work situation?”