We are overdue for the blog feature where I answer the search strings people typed in to find this place as if they are questions. Let's do it! First, as is traditional, a song: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2ccC4aULow RIP to one of the coolest, realest artists I was lucky enough to share the space-time continuum with. :cries … Continue reading It Came From The Search Terms: Spring 2020
Y'all I have another Vice piece dropping soon and I have to confess I am HOLIDAYED TF OUT RIGHT NOW. Let's talk endings. Breakups. My wheelhouse. We'll call the first one #1240: "How do I approach a friend who doesn't want to talk to me anymore?" Hey Captain Awkward, Here is my dilemma: I am … Continue reading #1240 and #1241: “Closure” Is The Gift You Give Yourself
This piece written by Cass Ball is great. And you can safely replace "20s" with "any part of adulthood." Now's the part where I physically restrain myself from quoting the entire thing: "When I’m coming from a place of scarcity, a place where everything feels like it isn’t enough,I often feel that I’m insufficient without … Continue reading A++ Recommend! Scarleteen’s “Embracing Newbiehood: How to Approach Dating and Sex in Your 20s With Little or No Experience”
I had family in town this weekend so got behind on these, hopefully you enjoy them! The questions were submitted here, there will be a July session later in the month. Q1: When I'm walking down the street with friends who love dogs, they love to interrupt our conversations with screams like "OMG LOOK AT … Continue reading Short Answer Friday: Happy Monday!
Hello Captain Awkward, Last month my husband and I (she/her) separated; it was my choice and I stayed in the home while he moved out. We were in couple’s therapy for several years leading up to the split and for the last part of the relationship we were living as roommates. For almost the last … Continue reading #1206: How do explain that I’m almost-but-not-quite divorced in my brand new dating profile?
It is time for the return of the feature where we answer things people typed into search engines to find this place as if they are questions. Obviously we are missing details and nuance and the larger story. (That's what makes it fun). First, as traditional: music with the month somewhere in the song. https://youtu.be/jpVgPEWNiRk … Continue reading It Came From The Search Terms: January Song
Dearest Captain, I've been dating a person for almost 3 months, and he is terrific and lovely. Sexy stuff is also ding ding ding jackpot!!!. I'm at the point where I would like to have a low-stress check-in about how we're both feeling regarding exclusivity and commitment. I know we're both currently not seeing anyone … Continue reading #988: “How do I have the ‘is this a real relationship?’ talk with someone without messing up the relationship?”
Hi Captain! My problem is one that I imagine is very, very common, but I'll start with a little background on my specific situation. I recently started going to therapy for some pretty serious self esteem issues that had led to me isolating myself for a long time. Up until this year I hadn't been … Continue reading #968: “How can I stop fat-shaming myself and enjoy my life?”
Hi, I’m a 17 year old homeschooled dual-creadit student who attends my local community college. I have a 4.0 there, and I am part of the honor society and an officer in the Honors Student Organization. I’m not, at least not in by my family’s standards, brilliant, but I am smart. I always try to … Continue reading #801: Why can’t other people care about school as much as I do?
Dear Captain Awkward, I am mentally ill, to date I have spent 23 days on involuntary psych holds. Most of this wasn't warranted but that is a whole other thing. I am also a stand up comic and when I am hanging out with comedy peers everything is fair game and no one really shrinks … Continue reading #716: Dating and Disclosure