#1047: “How do I talk to my future roommate about her homophobic comments & behaviors?”

Dear Captain Awkward, How is a good way to let a friend know that her mildly homophobic comments are hurtful to me before I move in with her? My friend Ella would probably be offended if she knew her comments come across as 'othering' to me (I'm a bisexual woman, not yet fully out to … Continue reading #1047: “How do I talk to my future roommate about her homophobic comments & behaviors?”

#1001: “Let’s open up our marriage so I can sleep with this really untrustworthy person!”

Dear Captain Awkward, Recently, my husband and I have been talking about taking a step to be more open in our relationship. We had made attempts to do this before, but we sort of jumped in without enough discussion and then had to pull back because if something hadn't been explicitly outlined for him as … Continue reading #1001: “Let’s open up our marriage so I can sleep with this really untrustworthy person!”

#978: “If you were a ten-year-old boy who just told your mom you’re gay, what would you want her to say?”

Hey Cap, Hopefully this is any easy one for you (and maybe your community?) If you were a ten year old boy who just came out to your mom, what would you want her to do or say? What could the mom do to support him? He came to me crying and handed me a … Continue reading #978: “If you were a ten-year-old boy who just told your mom you’re gay, what would you want her to say?”

#918: “I’m no longer asexual and feel like I’m letting my community down.”

Hi Captain, Since my adolescence, I've not had sexual desire. I identified as grey-A for a while, and then switched to identifying as asexual when it seemed clear to me that I would not develop any sexual desire. I was happy with this assessment. I have been active in various ace forums since I was … Continue reading #918: “I’m no longer asexual and feel like I’m letting my community down.”

#908: “Staying the night with someone carries a lot of intimacy weight for me. How do I manage my feelings about that with potential partners?”

Dear Captain Awkward: A girl I've been seeing for 5 weeks broke up with me and it hit me really hard. It took me a night to realize that I had attributed a lot of emotional weight to staying over at her place on week 4, when she asked me to come over and stay … Continue reading #908: “Staying the night with someone carries a lot of intimacy weight for me. How do I manage my feelings about that with potential partners?”

#737: “How do I explore bisexuality from inside a committed relationship with a man?”

Dear Captain, I think I'm bisexual. The problem is I'm not sure and I'm interested in finding out, but I'm in a committed yet rocky relationship with a man in the gay-unfriendly Midwest. I made an online dating account today to seek out other queer women in my area. There are like 5 of them. … Continue reading #737: “How do I explore bisexuality from inside a committed relationship with a man?”

#734: “I’ve just figured out that I’m asexual. How do I hook my husband up with other partners to meet his needs?”

Hiya Captain, I wrote in a while ago with a fairly incoherent question of the "I think I'm maybe asexual but I already got married with the usual implicit understanding that sex would be part of the relationship" variety with a hefty side of "what is wrong with me and how do I not be … Continue reading #734: “I’ve just figured out that I’m asexual. How do I hook my husband up with other partners to meet his needs?”