A++ Recommend! Scarleteen’s “Embracing Newbiehood: How to Approach Dating and Sex in Your 20s With Little or No Experience”

This piece written by Cass Ball is great. And you can safely replace "20s" with "any part of adulthood." Now's the part where I physically restrain myself from quoting the entire thing: "When I’m coming from a place of scarcity, a place where everything feels like it isn’t enough,I often feel that I’m insufficient without … Continue reading A++ Recommend! Scarleteen’s “Embracing Newbiehood: How to Approach Dating and Sex in Your 20s With Little or No Experience”

Happy Birthday, Scarleteen!

Scarleteen is a national treasure. The site celebrated its 20th birthday over the weekend. Heather Corinna and team have built and maintained a place where young people can go to find safe, honest, scientifically sound, inclusive, accurate, non-judgmental information about sex, sexual health, and healthy relationships for TWENTY! years. Amazing work, y'all. While I suggest … Continue reading Happy Birthday, Scarleteen!

It Came From The Search Terms: Flaming September

Hello friends! It's that time, where we answer the things people typed into search engines as if they were questions. It's a good way to check in with people's preoccupations on a large, anonymous scale and it's usually pretty fun. First, as is traditional, a song: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QZCiMp7F65o (Lyrics at the YouTube link) Also I know … Continue reading It Came From The Search Terms: Flaming September

#1085: “My partner keeps inviting his ex-girlfriend to stay with us and by stay with us I mean ‘in our bed.'”

Hi Cap’n.  Here is issue: My partners’ ex, and boundaries. I have great relationships with my exes, I think it’s healthy and awesome. This is a new and different world, apparently. My partner's most recent ex is in our lives a LOT. There are good reasons for this that go beyond their ongoing friendship, but … Continue reading #1085: “My partner keeps inviting his ex-girlfriend to stay with us and by stay with us I mean ‘in our bed.'”

#1065: “I love my girlfriend and feel like I would die without her. She doesn’t love me back.”

Hello! Long time no blog! I traveled to Texas for Christmas break, since my in-laws live in the Fort Worth area and Amarillo. It was lovely to see family and catch up with some old friends who have relocated and meet some nifty new people. I did not take a computer with me or do … Continue reading #1065: “I love my girlfriend and feel like I would die without her. She doesn’t love me back.”

It Came From The Search Terms: September Gurls

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Mic9CSv91b4 Video description: The Bangles cover Big Star's September Gurls in Pittsburgh in 1986. It's time for the monthly thing where we answer the things people typed into search engines as if they are actual questions. This feature is generously funded by Patreon supporters. 1 "How to stop a neighbour and hubby putting me down … Continue reading It Came From The Search Terms: September Gurls

#1001: “Let’s open up our marriage so I can sleep with this really untrustworthy person!”

Dear Captain Awkward, Recently, my husband and I have been talking about taking a step to be more open in our relationship. We had made attempts to do this before, but we sort of jumped in without enough discussion and then had to pull back because if something hadn't been explicitly outlined for him as … Continue reading #1001: “Let’s open up our marriage so I can sleep with this really untrustworthy person!”

#919:”Metamour vetoed me, he wants a relationship anyway.”

Dear Captain, This is a bit messy, please bear with me... One year ago, a long time acquaintance, “John”, figured out my interest in BDSM. It turned out him and his wife “Julia”, were a dominant and submissive couple in a polyamorus triad with another woman, who I will call “Katie”. Katie is not a … Continue reading #919:”Metamour vetoed me, he wants a relationship anyway.”

#908: “Staying the night with someone carries a lot of intimacy weight for me. How do I manage my feelings about that with potential partners?”

Dear Captain Awkward: A girl I've been seeing for 5 weeks broke up with me and it hit me really hard. It took me a night to realize that I had attributed a lot of emotional weight to staying over at her place on week 4, when she asked me to come over and stay … Continue reading #908: “Staying the night with someone carries a lot of intimacy weight for me. How do I manage my feelings about that with potential partners?”

#744: Informing someone you’re not talking to anymore about STI risks

Dear Captain & Army, About a month ago, I finally broke things off with a long-term Darth Vader ex I'll call Joe. We officially broke up last year, but spent this summer falling in love all over again, though we kept it completely secret. However, when Joe finally admitted to cheating on me with a … Continue reading #744: Informing someone you’re not talking to anymore about STI risks