It Came From The Search Terms: Flaming September

Hello friends! It's that time, where we answer the things people typed into search engines as if they were questions. It's a good way to check in with people's preoccupations on a large, anonymous scale and it's usually pretty fun. First, as is traditional, a song: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QZCiMp7F65o (Lyrics at the YouTube link) Also I know … Continue reading It Came From The Search Terms: Flaming September

#1144: “My best friend is having ex-sex and I don’t know how to support her.”

Dear Captain Awkward, A couple of months ago, one of my best friends (we'll call her Beth) and her partner (we'll call him Dylan) broke up. Beth and Dylan had been together for six years and living together for five. They seemed to have a pretty good relationship, although Dylan dominated the apartment with his … Continue reading #1144: “My best friend is having ex-sex and I don’t know how to support her.”

It Came From The Search Terms: Something ‘Bout July + Summer Pledge Drive

Time for the monthly tradition where we answer the things people typed into search engines as if they are questions. Before we get to it, it's Pledge Drive Time! Twice a year, winter and summer, I interrupt our usual programming to remind folks that fun stuff like the Search Terms posts and the Friday short … Continue reading It Came From The Search Terms: Something ‘Bout July + Summer Pledge Drive

Quick Links

Scarleteen, that national treasure, has a guide for adults who want to help young people learn to handle romantic rejection with more grace (and less violence). Their "big five" principles for adults when talking to teens about their romantic and sexual lives and identities are also awesome reading. Speaking of national treasures, here's a perfect … Continue reading Quick Links

#1098: “Oops, just figured out I’m polyamorous, 18 months into a serious monogamous relationship with the father of my child.”

Captain Awkward, I've found myself in a really damn sticky situation. I'm polyamorous. I just recently told my partner, we've been together for 18 months this June, we're engaged, and we have a kid together. (For anonymity, I'll be referring to my partner as Darin and our son as Ash.) I love Darin, and I … Continue reading #1098: “Oops, just figured out I’m polyamorous, 18 months into a serious monogamous relationship with the father of my child.”

#1085: “My partner keeps inviting his ex-girlfriend to stay with us and by stay with us I mean ‘in our bed.'”

Hi Cap’n.  Here is issue: My partners’ ex, and boundaries. I have great relationships with my exes, I think it’s healthy and awesome. This is a new and different world, apparently. My partner's most recent ex is in our lives a LOT. There are good reasons for this that go beyond their ongoing friendship, but … Continue reading #1085: “My partner keeps inviting his ex-girlfriend to stay with us and by stay with us I mean ‘in our bed.'”

#1065: “I love my girlfriend and feel like I would die without her. She doesn’t love me back.”

Hello! Long time no blog! I traveled to Texas for Christmas break, since my in-laws live in the Fort Worth area and Amarillo. It was lovely to see family and catch up with some old friends who have relocated and meet some nifty new people. I did not take a computer with me or do … Continue reading #1065: “I love my girlfriend and feel like I would die without her. She doesn’t love me back.”