If you end up trying to negotiate with your feelings, especially Future Feelings that Future You isn't even feeling yet, use action there, too, like: "If this was a mistake and someday I feel the thing I'm so afraid to feel, what (if anything) will I do about it?" Feelings are coming one way or another, you aren't the boss of them but they definitely aren't the boss of you, either. Make friends with them, invite them in, see what they have to tell you. You can decide what to do about them.
This piece written by Cass Ball is great. And you can safely replace "20s" with "any part of adulthood." Now's the part where I physically restrain myself from quoting the entire thing: "When I’m coming from a place of scarcity, a place where everything feels like it isn’t enough,I often feel that I’m insufficient without … Continue reading A++ Recommend! Scarleteen’s “Embracing Newbiehood: How to Approach Dating and Sex in Your 20s With Little or No Experience”
Hello! Search terms have piled up, let's do the thing where we answer the search strings people typed in that led them here as if they are questions. Context is missing (by design), so expect some comedy answers in between with the sincere stuff. Let's kick things off with a song. Have I used this … Continue reading It Came From The Search Terms: Cruel Summer
I had family in town this weekend so got behind on these, hopefully you enjoy them! The questions were submitted here, there will be a July session later in the month. Q1: When I'm walking down the street with friends who love dogs, they love to interrupt our conversations with screams like "OMG LOOK AT … Continue reading Short Answer Friday: Happy Monday!
Hello Captain Awkward, Last month my husband and I (she/her) separated; it was my choice and I stayed in the home while he moved out. We were in couple’s therapy for several years leading up to the split and for the last part of the relationship we were living as roommates. For almost the last … Continue reading #1206: How do explain that I’m almost-but-not-quite divorced in my brand new dating profile?
Hi Captain Awkward, My partner [26M] and I have been together for about 6 months. We both genuinely love each other, and have been telling each other that we love each other for the last few months; but some recent events have led me to reconsider how seriously committed he is to the relationship, and … Continue reading #1186: “How do I rebuild trust in my relationship?”
It is time for the return of the feature where we answer things people typed into search engines to find this place as if they are questions. Obviously we are missing details and nuance and the larger story. (That's what makes it fun). First, as traditional: music with the month somewhere in the song. https://youtu.be/jpVgPEWNiRk … Continue reading It Came From The Search Terms: January Song
Scarleteen is a national treasure. The site celebrated its 20th birthday over the weekend. Heather Corinna and team have built and maintained a place where young people can go to find safe, honest, scientifically sound, inclusive, accurate, non-judgmental information about sex, sexual health, and healthy relationships for TWENTY! years. Amazing work, y'all. While I suggest … Continue reading Happy Birthday, Scarleteen!
It's time for that mostly monthly tradition where we answer the things people typed into search engines as if they are questions. First, as is traditional, a song: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E5Gu6c3YFCM Now, the terms! 1 "Captain Awkward is fat" Fuck yeah I am! 2 "Is it weird to feel lonely in a relationship of 6 months together" … Continue reading It Came From The Search Terms: Fall Into November
Hello! It's time to answer a bunch of short questions on a Friday. Here's the thread from last time and here's how it works: Patrons can submit questions at this thread (Advantage: More than 280 characters). Anyone can submit questions anytime via Twitter - @CAwkward, #awkwardfriday. Please use the hashtag, my mentions are busy enough that … Continue reading Short Answers for Today (Oct. 12)