#1216 and #1217: The Weight Of Parental Love and Things And Time And “Help.”

Dear Captain Awkward; Hello! I am 48 years old, pronouns she/her, and having trouble with my parents, specifically, my mother and her hoarding. My mom is trying to give more stuff to me than I can handle, and the lever she pulls to make it more painful is, "but it was your grandmother's." if I … Continue reading #1216 and #1217: The Weight Of Parental Love and Things And Time And “Help.”

May Answers of Varying Length to Short Questions: Part 2 of 2

Continued from the previous post to give me more time to think and help you rest your scrolling fingers. Click below the jump for: Not automatically taking on new volunteer responsibilities when others pile them on, talking to kids about fatphobia and disordered eating, supporting a friend with an alcohol addiction, and bouncing back when … Continue reading May Answers of Varying Length to Short Questions: Part 2 of 2

Friday “Answers of Varying Length To Short Questions”: Part 1

Welcome to the re-activation/remixing of "Short Answer Fridays," where patrons of the site have first dibs for getting short questions answered. I broke it up into two parts, I'll post the rest this weekend. Q1 Scripts for when my mom talks about how she looks like a slob, or how she is such a lazy … Continue reading Friday “Answers of Varying Length To Short Questions”: Part 1

Books: “What My Mother And I Don’t Talk About: Fifteen Writers Break the Silence”

"Sometimes I imagine what it would be like to give this book to my mother. To present it to her as a precious gift over a meal that I’ve cooked for her. To say: Here is everything that keeps us from really talking. Here is my heart. Here are my words. I wrote this for … Continue reading Books: “What My Mother And I Don’t Talk About: Fifteen Writers Break the Silence”

#1198: “How do I deal with work burnout and make my partner* happy?” (*My partner = my boss, who is *a* partner in the law firm where I work)

I'm putting this one behind a cut. A Letter Writer is dealing with some major work burnout and anxiety,  and mentions disordered eating (bulimia) and childhood abuse including sexual abuse in passing (no details, just, mentioned). This is a tricky one. Dear Captain Awkward - So – the most important person in my life is … Continue reading #1198: “How do I deal with work burnout and make my partner* happy?” (*My partner = my boss, who is *a* partner in the law firm where I work)

#1197: “He broke up with me but hasn’t moved out yet. How do I not ruin our last chance to make this work?”

Hello Captain, I (she/her) and my partner (he/him) had been together for three years. Most of the happiest moments of my life have been with him, and we planned our futures together. I don’t value being in a relationship for its own sake, and I’ve only ever wanted this kind of thing with him. In … Continue reading #1197: “He broke up with me but hasn’t moved out yet. How do I not ruin our last chance to make this work?”

It Came From The Search Terms: “When April Comes Again”

It is time to celebrate the mostly-monthly ritual of rounding up the snippets that people typed into search engines to find this place and answering them like questions. Please enjoy this jazzy bittersweet tune about lost love and memory (When April Comes Again, sung by Mel Tormé). https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pZ48CqWjPmM   1 "How to get over a … Continue reading It Came From The Search Terms: “When April Comes Again”

#1187: “People from my past at my estranged father’s funeral (do not want).”

Hi Captain, My estranged father is about to die (I am working with family to make the degree of peace with which I feel comfortable). My mother died about a decade ago. Besides the problem of anticipatory grieving and emotions feelings around an estrangement, I am struggling with a desire not to go to his … Continue reading #1187: “People from my past at my estranged father’s funeral (do not want).”