It's okay if someone you strongly dislike gets an inkling that the feeling is mutual.
Category: self-care
#1337: About more than a mug: Boundaries, housemates, aggression
Introducing The Mug of Perpetually Being Mad At You
#1334: “If someone keeps RSVP-ing “yes” but never attending, do I have to keep inviting them to stuff?”
Here is blanket permission to not worry very much about offending people who neither show up to your parties nor ever explain why.
#1320: “How to be fair to a co-habiting ex who dumped me, but is acting all sad that I’m moving out?”
"You dumped me, remember? Kindly sigh into someone else's moving boxes."
Crossover: Ask A(n Awkward) Manager
Sometimes Alison at Ask A Manager and I like to answer questions about workplace awkwardness together.
#1304: “Fox News stole my mom and replaced her with a ranting lady who won’t let me say or do anything without it setting her off. How do I get along with her until I can leave for college?”
On calling bluffs, escape velocity, and the futile, necessary, but probably still futile, work of reclaiming some of our relatives from history's flaming dumpster. Content note: Sometimes honestly talking about authoritarian stuff and white supremacy means describing it, so there are examples of actual racist and xenophobic statements from relatives herein.
Links: The Holidays and What To Do About Them
Weird holidays, weird year.
#1296: “Gender may be made up but it’s still messing with me”
Rae is back, restoring a sense of discovery and play to figuring out who the heck you are.
#1295: “Is my boyfriend a jerk or am I just Too Sensitive?”
#ThisFuckingGuy, again.
#1293: “I’m worried my family’s anger about me being a trans man will overshadow my sister’s wedding.”
Licensed therapist Rae McDaniel reminds a reader that discomfort is not harm, and trans people aren't messing up their family events by existing at them.