#1220: “Is this guy constantly texting me after I told him not to because he ‘doesn’t understand’ boundaries or because he doesn’t care about them?”

Dear Captain Awkward, I ( 27, she/her) have an acquaintance (29, he/him) who is not neurotypical (he told me this). His preferred mode of communication is texting and he frequently tries to have long, involved text conversations with me. I was pretty tolerant of this at first, but it’s gotten a bit wearing. I’ve told … Continue reading #1220: “Is this guy constantly texting me after I told him not to because he ‘doesn’t understand’ boundaries or because he doesn’t care about them?”

#1206: How do explain that I’m almost-but-not-quite divorced in my brand new dating profile?

Hello Captain Awkward, Last month my husband and I (she/her) separated; it was my choice and I stayed in the home while he moved out. We were in couple’s therapy for several years leading up to the split and for the last part of the relationship we were living as roommates. For almost the last … Continue reading #1206: How do explain that I’m almost-but-not-quite divorced in my brand new dating profile?

#1197: “He broke up with me but hasn’t moved out yet. How do I not ruin our last chance to make this work?”

Hello Captain, I (she/her) and my partner (he/him) had been together for three years. Most of the happiest moments of my life have been with him, and we planned our futures together. I don’t value being in a relationship for its own sake, and I’ve only ever wanted this kind of thing with him. In … Continue reading #1197: “He broke up with me but hasn’t moved out yet. How do I not ruin our last chance to make this work?”

It Came From The Search Terms: “When April Comes Again”

It is time to celebrate the mostly-monthly ritual of rounding up the snippets that people typed into search engines to find this place and answering them like questions. Please enjoy this jazzy bittersweet tune about lost love and memory (When April Comes Again, sung by Mel Tormé). https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pZ48CqWjPmM   1 "How to get over a … Continue reading It Came From The Search Terms: “When April Comes Again”

#1188: Grief and the empty chairs at the wedding feast.

Dear Captain Awkward, After almost a year of planning, we're in the home stretch before my wedding day in early May. Everything was lining up smoothly until I reached out for RSVPs that hadn't been received yet, namely my stepdad, my aunt, and my grandmother (my dead mom's sister and mother). These are my only … Continue reading #1188: Grief and the empty chairs at the wedding feast.

#1178: “A friend paid me to read her book and it’s terrible.”

Hello Captain, Two years ago, a friend paid me to critique her novel because I studied writing and know the publishing industry. I agreed to read three drafts of the work. We did not sign a formal contract. Then I got the manuscript, and it’s terrible on all levels, from prose to plot. I’ve tried … Continue reading #1178: “A friend paid me to read her book and it’s terrible.”

#1165: “(I think) my only friend won’t hang out with me because of a dead guy.”

Hi Captain, I (she/her) am 39 years old and haven’t had a real friend since I was 23. Due to numerous instances of abandonment and rejection before and since, I’ve developed a form of Social Anxiety where I panic whenever I think someone important to me might, well, abandon or reject me. I’m working on … Continue reading #1165: “(I think) my only friend won’t hang out with me because of a dead guy.”

#1127: “I think my friend is falling in love with me and I don’t feel the same way.”

Dear Captain, Nearly 2 years ago I joined a MMORPG community for the first time. Through a series of events, I met a guy who has become one of my best friends. We are bizarrely similar at times and he's really been there for me. It started out just online but we now have each … Continue reading #1127: “I think my friend is falling in love with me and I don’t feel the same way.”

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Scarleteen, that national treasure, has a guide for adults who want to help young people learn to handle romantic rejection with more grace (and less violence). Their "big five" principles for adults when talking to teens about their romantic and sexual lives and identities are also awesome reading. Speaking of national treasures, here's a perfect … Continue reading Quick Links