Numbness can be a survival skill, but the feeling's gotta come back sometime.
I believe the classic phrase is "don't set yourself on fire to keep somebody else warm."
The question u asked: "How do I decline future social invitations from people I don't like anymore?"
The question I answered: "It is okay to outgrow friendships and only RSVP 'yes' to the parties you want to attend."
"A rose by any other name would smell as sweet." Great! Then why not pick mine?
Just spitballing here, but what if my fellow white people took bigotry in our social spaces incredibly fucking seriously for a change?
To be fair, it was a Very Good apology. In the books. Where it happened exactly *one* time.
Was your dentist flirting with you?
No. And if he was, gross.
"Say, Old Bean, it was really fun to have sex for a while, but I'm going to need you to find a new topic of conversation."
On calling bluffs, escape velocity, and the futile, necessary, but probably still futile, work of reclaiming some of our relatives from history's flaming dumpster. Content note: Sometimes honestly talking about authoritarian stuff and white supremacy means describing it, so there are examples of actual racist and xenophobic statements from relatives herein.
Ahhhh, the breakup where the dude wants to both sleep with other people and remain the center of your world. A classic!