"Why is EVERYONE creating so much DRAMA?" -The Hot Mess Who Both Smelt It And Dealt It, usually
There is "what might be technically owed" and "what is realistic and workable now." In general, don't try to extract the former at the expense of the latter with people you'd like to stay friends with.
Your house, your rules, so spell them out from now on and give your son-in-law a chance to surprise you.
Let's you and me drive a stake through the heart of NiceGirl™ Summer.
Introducing The Mug of Perpetually Being Mad At You
Content note/reminder that describing bigotry accurately sometimes includes examples. Followed by the usual reminders that boundaries are more about deciding what you will do than about what you can convince other people to do.
When fear of over-committing meets terror of letting other people down, that's where you'll find me and way more than one of you, if my inbox is any indication.
Here is blanket permission to not worry very much about offending people who neither show up to your parties nor ever explain why.
How to plot the accumulated costs of "useless objects" vs. "pointless arguments" over time?
Good fences continue to make good neighbors, metaphorically and literally.