So, you said something racist. Or, someone told you that you said something racist. Or, someone you really like & admire said or did something racist, or is getting told on for saying something racist. And now you feel uncomfortable. You feel guilty, maybe, or ashamed. Whatever it is, it's weird and you don't like … Continue reading My Fellow White People, Here’s One Simple Trick You Can Do About Racism TODAY!
Yo, Captain! I have a friend who I care about dearly but he keeps sending quite rude (almost downright racist) messages over a group chat I have with all of my friends, often targeted towards me and my heritage. A recent example is that he sent a photo of a map from almost 200 years … Continue reading #1076: The Xenophobe In The Group Chat
The wonderful Miss Conduct at the Boston Globe answered a letter about a pair of sisters, one of whom is dating a dude who has a Nazi flag in his room. She nailed it: "...the thing about Nazis is, they are a great place to draw the line..." Let me add a script: "Sister, your fucking … Continue reading Don’t date Nazis!
hi captain, i want to thank you so much for your website and lovely community and i hope this message finds you well. i'm having a hard time sorting through some relationship stuff and i'm hoping for some clarity. i'm dating a very sweet and loving man who is still dealing every day with mental … Continue reading #954: “I know that ‘a girlfriend is not a pacifier’ but I’m worried that I’m becoming a pacifier for my partner.”
Dear Captain, I'm hooked on your advice as well as comments from the Awkward Army. Now, I need your help. Let me set the scene. I've lived in Dubai, New York, Hong Kong and a lot of other cool places. I love anime (inner geek), talking shit with my friends (very cool, very diverse), and … Continue reading #871: Love & Friendship in the Time of Xenophobia
HI! So I know church is maybe not your milieu, but I hope this question has some broader applications and maybe deserves a broader answer. I'm a lady in my early 30s who has been dating my wonderful boyfriend (late 20s) for a few years. We've been attending our church for 3 years, which we … Continue reading #819: ‘Ware The “Frozen Chosen”
Dear Captain Awkward, I am a woman who is a graduate student. One of my fellow students, a man who I'll call Nigel, takes up a lot of space in seminar. He speaks over people, interrupts, makes noises while other people speak, and doesn't wait his turn. If unchecked, he will dominate seminar and prevent … Continue reading #787: Trouble dealing with male grad students who take up all the air
Hello Captain Awkward! I love your blog. I love it so much that I've read through your archives and found a few questions that are cousins to, but not quite the same as mine, so here goes: I am in my mid twenties and work at a nonprofit in a large, diverse (racially/ethnically, economically, politically) … Continue reading #710: I love my volunteers (but not the racist ones).