Just spitballing here, but what if my fellow white people took bigotry in our social spaces incredibly fucking seriously for a change?
On calling bluffs, escape velocity, and the futile, necessary, but probably still futile, work of reclaiming some of our relatives from history's flaming dumpster. Content note: Sometimes honestly talking about authoritarian stuff and white supremacy means describing it, so there are examples of actual racist and xenophobic statements from relatives herein.
Hello again! Patrons have sent short questions. I have attempted to answer them. Installment 1 is here. This round: How do I deal with my mom's anxiety about my life, how do I tell a roommate that their helpfulness is not actually helpful, how do I preserve a friendship over distance, how do I build a … Continue reading September 2019 Short Question Grab Bag: Part 2
Hello, it's the monthly feature where patrons of the site can ask short questions. Q1: Thanks to years of reading your blog I finally learned how to call out -isms when they happen! But now I'm stuck at the next hurdle, where people who get called out are so mortified they go into an over-the-top … Continue reading Short Questions for August 2019: Part 1 of 2
Dear Captain Awkward, I have a great younger brother who realized he was gay and came out a few years ago in his mid-twenties, which was met generally with cheerful support by family and friends. Coming out really kickstarted his interest in social justice issues, which is awesome; we both grew up in a fairly … Continue reading #1190 Guest Post: “When ‘Woke’ Becomes A Fetish”
Dear Captain Awkward, I've met somebody lovely and we're getting married in the summer. (My pronouns: she/her, my fiancee's: they/them) I'm thrilled to celebrate with all my family and friends...except one person. My uncle has mainlined Fox News for longer than I've been alive and has selected me, his queer, liberal niece, as a prime … Continue reading #1189: “Fox News, Immigrant Family, and the F******* Wedding Invite List”
It's time to answer the things people typed into search engines as if they are questions. Here is a seasonal jam by The Avett Brothers: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rkVM4AxzxCE Lyrics are here. 1 "I can't stand going to my friend's house because she smokes inside." Legit! I have a very hard time with smoke (asthma trigger), the same … Continue reading It Came From The Search Terms: February Seven
Hello! This morning I am voting, picking Henrietta Pussycat up from the vet from her spay, and then I'm answering short questions this afternoon. Review of how it works: Patrons can submit questions at this thread (Advantage: More than 280 characters). Anyone can submit questions anytime via Twitter – @CAwkward, #awkwardfriday. Please use the hashtag, my … Continue reading Short Answer Friday for 11/2
Good morning! We're doing the thing today! To ask a question, patrons can post to this thread and anyone can reach me on Twitter (@CAwkward, #AwkwardFriday). Submissions close at noon Chicago time, at which point I'll answer as many as I can between then and 1pm. Comments are open! So many great questions! Thanks everyone. … Continue reading Short Answer Friday – 8/31
Content note: After the jump I mention Rape Threats Dudes Have Sent Me for saying what I think about creepy dudes. Dear Captain, Over the past several years I've drifted to the periphery of a friend group where one member is a sexist creep. I immediately found him slimy and pushy and off-putting upon meeting … Continue reading #1120: The Creepy Guy In The Friend Group, Revisited: Four More Geek Social Fallacies