If someone breaks up with you, it's okay to be sad. It's okay to be surprised. Confused. Bowled over. Wrung out. It's okay to ask questions like "why" and "how long have you felt this way" and "is there someone else"? You aren't owed answers but it's okay to ask. It's okay to want them … Continue reading Songs For The Dumped
Dear Captain A, I've been friends with my friend, B, since 2004. We had a short but really important lovership in 2006, had a hard breakup, but then rebuilt our friendship. For the past five years, he's been someone I've considered family and my best friend. We referred to each other as 'non sexual life … Continue reading #333 & #334: Friendships, breakups, poetry, and WTF?
Lindy West reacts to a new book by the authors of The Rules with the correct amount of "What the everloving fuck?" (h/t Bitches Gotta Eat) "So, essentially (according to these jokers), online dating is a forum where you put yourself up for auction and then passively watch while men compete for your silent company … Continue reading Linky Links of Linkyness
Sometimes the only answer an advice columnist can give is "Dude, you are so fucked." Check out Dan Savage's Letter of the Day from yesterday. Amazing. Also, it's National Poetry Month! Here is Maggie Estep's great poem, "I am an emotional idiot." Emotional Idiot by Maggie Estep I'm an Emotional Idiot so get away from … Continue reading Dude, you are so fucked.
Dear Captain Awkward, Are there times when the FU should not be silent when telling people the STFU? If so, do you have a combat guide for mild-mannered ladies who wear pearls and read a lot of Jane Austen? Wanting to Get out the Sticks and Stones Oh, my ladylike friend, one day you will … Continue reading Reader Question #20: Captain Awkward’s Emporium of Cutting Remarks
I like this post about how to promote yourself without being a jerk. I've been linking CaptainAwkward.com hardcore on the Book of the Face and the Twitter. This is a good reminder that you have to self-promote your work (no one else will), so don't feel ashamed, but also don't be such a Dalek about … Continue reading Links!
Bookslut writes about Judith Warner's column on "yoga memoirs" like she took the words right out of my mouth. "It was with joy/frustration/hilarity that I read, then, Judith Warner's piece in the New York Times about the rise of the yoga memoir. And how it ties into the death of feminist political action, because all … Continue reading The State Religion is Constant Self-Improvement
I just watched this TED talk by Brene Brown (thanks to Between Those Things). I'm a total geek for TED. The internet is amazing. We live in amazing times. I press a few buttons and books come to my house. I press a few more and I get to sit at the feet of … Continue reading The power of vulnerability