"They bite, and are a total asshole with no home training, but I love them anyway" is for adorable cats you adopt out of the trash, not for friends. And when friends come over, those cats go in a nice room with water and a litter box and a door that closes.
Category: predators
#1298: “Could my adult friend have been grooming me for years?”
The subject line says it all, for content warning purposes, though if it helps: The Letter Writer sent the person packing and it was not a *successful* grooming attempt.
#1285: “My sister is in love with someone she knows tried to rape me.”
The subject title is the content warning. No graphic details, but the situation is exactly that bad.
#1191: Guest Post:”My Mom’s Boyfriend is a Sex Offender!”
If it's not obvious why from the subject line, we're putting this post behind a cut so people can choose whether to engage further. FYI there are mentions of past assaults and predatory behavior in addition to describing sex offender registries and designations. Upsetting stuff, though the LW is doing a good job with an impossible … Continue reading #1191: Guest Post:”My Mom’s Boyfriend is a Sex Offender!”
#1131: The Aftermath of Harassment Allegations: A Friend’s Responsibility
I don't have a working framework yet for what happens when a creep and a bigot actually faces social or professional consequences for the harm they do. It's so rare that someone harming a woman actually gets kicked out of a social space for that explicit reason that most of us honestly don't know what comes next.
#1036: “My newly nudist/naturist friend and unwanted naked photos.”
Putting this behind a cut given the "Guy In Your Office Who Gives Weird Backrubs And Ends Every Sentence With 'That's What She Said' Is Totally #IBelieveYou About Your #MeToo Social Media Posts" and "Pretty Much Every Movie You Loved In The 1990s Is Now Kinda Gross To Think About" week we've had. Dear Captain … Continue reading #1036: “My newly nudist/naturist friend and unwanted naked photos.”
#936: “My best friend’s partner secretly records his guests while they are in the bathroom.”
Oh yeah. You read that right. Putting this one behind a cut. Dear Captain Awkward, My best friend and her fiancé invited my boyfriend and I away for the weekend to her parents’ house in the country. She and I have been best friends since we were 13 (we are now 29) and I am … Continue reading #936: “My best friend’s partner secretly records his guests while they are in the bathroom.”
It Came From The Search Terms: May Flowers
Thanks (?) to the nice Twitter friends who clued me into this horrible WikiHow on How To Stop A Wedding, or, as @KristinMuH put it, "a manual to help stalkers ruin their target's special occasions." While I once joked that I would like to see this happen someday, it was, in fact, a joke. And … Continue reading It Came From The Search Terms: May Flowers
#407: Was I “leading this guy on” when I asked him if we could be friends and then he suddenly showed up where I live?
Hi! This is very sweet, right? But don't spring it on someone the first or second time you meet them. Friend-date people for a little while and if you're meant to be friends you will totally figure it out. Dear Captain Awkward: I ended my first romantic relationship earlier this year. I'm in my early … Continue reading #407: Was I “leading this guy on” when I asked him if we could be friends and then he suddenly showed up where I live?
#386: Facing down a predator.
Behind a cut for discussions of sexual abuse. Hi Captain Awkward, I don't know if you appreciate trigger warnings, since most of what you deal with sounds like it would apply, but this letter is about my dad who molested me. When I was starting puberty, my dad molested me. I told my mom, … Continue reading #386: Facing down a predator.
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